Steemit Engagement Challenge S6/W5 - Should gift giving only be for a season in a year?

Hello steemians,

I hope you started your week well and in good health. Today I'm going to participate in a 5-week contest in the Steem Kids & Parents community and the discussion thread around the main question is should gifts only be given for one season a year. So, I wish you an interesting read.

What is gift giving?

Gift giving is a type of behavior that makes us express our feelings and appreciation to others. There are also sociologists who have come to the conclusion that a person gives gifts to those with whom he wants to establish social relations, so giving gifts has different purposes based on various psychological motives which we will mention here.

There is also a theory indicated that man loves to express symbols, for example a young man gives his partner flowers to express his love and feelings towards her, and thus he uses the flowers as a symbol to express the love because of its beauty and fragrant smell.

Humans, by nature, associate feelings with material or gifts, so when someone gives us something, we consider that act to signify their interest in us and our happiness, and when the gift is not appropriate , we feel upset and frustrated, not because the gift itself is bad, but because we indirectly feel that this person has not cared about us or is not thinking about our happiness adequately .

Should it just be for a season in a year? Explain

Giving gifts is one of the five languages of love. It took me a long time to understand that. I knew it as information, but I understood and absorbed it when I met people with whom it is important to present gifts to them to make sure of the love of others. Their way of thinking, and to understand that this is how they understand the love of others.

For myself, I always give gifts to my friends on their occasions, and on non-occasions, because I am convinced that gifts without an occasion carry more distinct meanings than those expected. Perhaps this lies in the fact that they are really unexpected.

I love useful gifts, and I learned that lesson thanks to my mom.

Back in the day on Mother's Day, when I would take my brother to go get her a Mother's Day gift, we would buy useless things like squishy hearts for example. My mother then taught us to consider the needs of the person to whom we are going to give the gift before we buy those pretty useless things.

Since then, I have been thinking carefully before giving any gift to anyone about what this person needs, and I have usually succeeded in finding the person’s needs and providing them for him.

Name other opportunities that one can exchange gifts.

Anyone can rebel against the routine of his life and deviate from the familiar pattern in his life to change and improve, and it is natural that he will find in his life many occasions and holidays that allow him to present a romantic gift or a symbolic souvenir gift or something else that brings pleasure to others, and deepens the bonds of love And increases feelings of love and appreciation, and below we mention the most important occasions in which an individual can give gifts:

Valentine's Day:

It is one of the famous occasions that lovers are often keen to use to express their emotions towards the other party, as the association of that symbolic and simple gift in its value with this particular time of the year carries a special message from the heart that reaches the heart without speaking or speaking, as the occasion in itself expresses About the love, interest and appreciation of this party to his partner as long as he always reminds him even of the least and simplest gifts.

Marriage anniversary:

It expresses the love of the two parties for each other despite the various preoccupations of life that may push one of the parties to forget the date of the anniversary of this day, but it is necessary to renew the feeling and remember the important days that bring the two parties together to maintain the health of the relationship between them, as it is a great way to get out of the daily routine And restore beautiful memories together, as well as show love and care and strengthen the relationship between the spouses.

Celebration of the first salary:

Completing the university stage and starting the first job and getting the first salary is one of the most joyful and enjoyable feelings, but now that you are no longer the student dependent on his parents, you have paved the way for independence, so it is time to pamper them with the gift of the first salary and celebrate by buying sweets for the house and valuable gifts for the father and mother, as they had everything Credit, fatigue and effort.

Retirement gifts:

Every beginning has an end. The moment of retirement and pension is one of the most difficult things a man may go through after he spent his life working and giving. Now is the time to return the favor so that every father and every man feels the appreciation and love of his children and even his grandchildren.

Welcoming the new neighbor:

There are many commandments of the neighbor in the Qur’an and Sunnah, between respecting him and consoling him, and even sharing food if he ran out of it, and Gabriel still recommends our Prophet to the neighbor until he thought that he would inherit it. And since they are in a new home, they certainly may lack some household items.

What are proper items that can be exchanged as gifts?

It must be realized that choosing a gift is a sensitive process, and the situation of the gifted must be taken into account in terms of his age, inclinations, hobbies, gender, social status, and culture, in addition to the occasion, his taste in various matters, his lifestyle, and the nature of his work.

In fact, the gift is priceless, but rather by the extent of the recipient’s admiration for it. If the gifted person, for example, only likes to wear dark colors, then gifting him light-colored clothes is something that he may not like and may irritate him, so the matter does not lie in the amount of money paid, but rather in The appropriateness of the gift, albeit practical, and compatible with his tendencies.

In order to choose a special gift, you must make it as personal as possible. Try to monitor the activity of the person you want to gift, especially if he is not close to you, and find out if he likes to play sports, read books, or practice a specific hobby, as well as if he needs something and intends to buy it, and if you cannot, you can always ask those close to him about what he loves and likes.

But if he is close to you, try to listen to what he says between the lines. If your wife is complaining about her broken wristwatch, or your friend is excited about the release of a new version of your favorite video game, then buying a new wristwatch or the latest version of the game is an ideal gift.

What should be the right motive for gift giving?

It's just about offering a thought to each other, sharing a moment or a feeling and showing the connection you have with each other. In fact, this meaning has taken on different meanings over time.

For example, some parents use it as a kind of prevention: "If you're good, you'll get a gift." A gift = gratitude, affection. Not having this recognition means there is something you are not doing well. And, of course, it also helps to want that beautiful Barbie doll, but that's where we come into another subject: consumerism, whose only role in this tradition is to add value to certain objects through a marketing strategy.

In short, we give gifts because it is a universal tradition that has existed among humans since time immemorial, as it represents togetherness, gratitude and love.

Who is qualified to give gifts?

People who enjoy giving gifts will do things like keep track of what they gave people in the previous year, whether the recipients liked them or not, and know what kind of gifts are given to other people in their lives, such as their children's teachers, classmates, or neighbours.

Some people are natural givers. They give gifts and do not wait for something in return or another gift for them. The only return they expect is the feeling of happiness that they see on the face of others. An example of this is when you give a child a gift, you will not wait for him to return it, but you want to see happiness on his face.

People who send gifts more than others often have more successful romantic stories and more romantic relationships because they become more attractive in the eye of the other party. So there are those who rely on gifts as a way to attract the opposite sex.

How should the giver and the receiver feel about the act of giving?

The gift does not only bring happiness and pleasure to the recipient of the gift, but also has a great impact on the soul of the one who gives it, as the gift does not increase love and intimacy out of the blue, so until you give your loved ones a perfect gift that has a great impact on their hearts and immortalizes their memory forever, it enters into a long process of monitoring and analyzing their personality and interests And a long list of discovering your loved one, discovering his hobbies, and observing his needs. This process of monitoring and analysis results in a deep understanding of the personality of your loved one to the point of knowing what he loves and what he hates.

And the gift that will make him happy and the timing of the perfect gift for him, and after a lot of that analysis and reconciliation to choose an ideal gift for those we love, we will find the most beautiful reaction from them and a sincere charming smile and gratitude for the presence of those who care about our details to this extent, that reaction leaves a great impact and encourages more exploration of the other party, Exploring a citizen in his soul who was not aware of its existence, and getting to know the other side with the utmost passion, so that this ideal gift becomes a gateway to more exploration and undying passion.

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Thank you very much for reading, it's time to invite my friends @pelon53 @fredquantum and @inspiracion to participate in this contest.

Best Regards,
@kouba01