RANT: The Most Annoying Thing About Most Indian Relatives

Hello dear Steemians! This is going to be a rant and I hope that I have warned you before I share this mind boggling issue I have in my head. As the title says, I am going to share the most annoying thing I have noticed about most Indian relatives. I am using the word 'most' because I have heard the same issue from many of my Indian friends as well and at the same time, I am aware that NOT ALL Indian relatives do this.

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By the way, this is not a racist post, because I am Indian myself and I believe that it is important to put this up here. Indian relatives are nosy. By nosy, I mean they need to know what you, your children and even your pets are doing with your lives whenever you speak! OK, I get that it is a little exaggerated on the pets part, though I have seen some doing it, it is only a few of them who ask about pets.

However, the point is they seem to have a very keen interest on what is going on in other people's lives way more than their own. While I love how well they greet and take care of us when we meet up or have family gatherings, this is one of the most annoying things that many people like me end up putting up with. Every time we have a conversation, there will be at least one personal, intruding question that has nothing to do with their life.

Some examples of such questions are, "When are you going to join College?", "When are you going to get a job?", "When are you going to get married?", "When are you going to have children?", "When are you going to join your son in school?", "When are you going to get a second child?" and so on. Sometimes, depending on the individual, if the person they want to know about is a young adult, they won't ask directly. Instead, they will ask questions to their parents, like "When is your son getting a job?", "Your daughter is getting older, when are you going to start looking for a match?" and "Is there any good news regarding your daughter (good news as in, whether she is pregnant yet)?".

At the moment, my parents are also being constantly asked such intruding questions by my relatives because I am getting older (in my 20s). Hence, my parents get very stressed out and complain to me about them every day instead of directly telling them off to mind their own business because they believe that it will be too rude. Had it been me, I would have been honest and explained it to them in a nice way so they would know not to do it again.

Apart from that, on some occasions, I also get 'the talk' that my biological clock is ticking and that I need to speed up the journey of my life. Recently, someone even shared a proposal to me because apparently the person was looking forward to marry an accountant who will help him to take care of his business and since accountancy is my field, my relatives recommended the proposal to me although he wanted to get married for the wrong reasons, just because I am getting older.

My best friend has complained to me regarding something similar. She resigned her job due to relocation of her office and was unemployed for some time while she was looking for a new job. Apparently, her nosy relatives kept asking her about getting a new job and due to the stress, she ended up going back to the same employer and got the same job back, in spite of how far it is from home and the long, time consuming commuting that she has to deal with on a daily basis.

On the other hand, my cousin is also facing a similar situation. The field that she chose to major in is teaching and she is passionate about teaching. However, one of my relatives believe that she should change her career because apparently, teachers don't get paid well and working in a factory or climbing the corporate ladder are the best options for my cousin. My relative was going on and on about how bad my cousin's choices are just because she chose to pursue her dream instead of what our relative think is best for her.

I wish that relatives can be more considerate and understand that everyone's life is a different journey. It is wrong to compare it with their timelines and to force their ideas on what others should be doing in their lives. The examples I have shared above are only a few and there are so many others that I wish I can share but this post will never end if I choose to. If you are someone facing a similar dilemma due to relatives, I hope that you are patient and know that we are not here to impress anyone so don't feel pressured to follow their advice blindly. Either tell them frankly that you have other plans, or just listen, smile and then proceed to do what you believe is best for you.

Now that I have put it all out here, I actually feel better! Usually when I need to rant, I share it with a trusted friend or write it in book. But, today I chose to make a blog post as this issue is becoming more common. Thank you for being so patient with my rant and have a great day ahead!

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