Humility II, Contributed by @Olawalium
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In the last post, we talked about the fact that, success or achievements sometimes get to us, and if not properly handled, we show forth our true self.
Humility, as discussed prior to this, speaks a lot about who we are on the inside, the calmness, maturity, and our understanding.
We had football training last week and I played as a center back for my “not so talented team.” We pitched our tents against an obviously too talented team. This is the kind of challenge I like because I love raising the bar and proving people wrong. I thrive on surprises sometimes. So, while I was in the match with my paired center back, the “talented” team couldn’t even score a goal. We held the backline and we were even leading by two goals.
At halftime, they changed some of us and I was replaced temporarily. That was the moment of collapse. Opposition gained ground and led us from 2-0 to 4-3. I was really not happy with it from the sidelines. For a moment, I thought Even if they asked me to come, I won’t. No one likes to lose. Hahaha. Lo and behold, they asked me to come back, I acted like I didn’t hear them hahaha. I don’t want to be at the receiving end of a loss like I was two weeks ago. Fear set in a little. Hahaha.
When the call came again, the first thing my mind told me was Be humble and immediately, I stepped on the pitch, but the fear of losing was still there. While walking to my side of the pitch, the opposition team thought they had won and they gave an honest assessment and told me: When they took you off, we were so happy because we know you were holding that back. My fear turned to motivation and my teammates also said Ah, we missed you, and that settled it for me, but my mind kept telling me to stay humble.
We won the match in the end 6-5 and I was so excited. When the praise kept coming even after the match, I was reminding myself Be humble. We should not only be humble in words, but in actions. There was that moment where I felt more than I had to, the moment where I thought about myself more than I ought to, and like we discussed in the first part, it is normal, but how we eventually handle it is what shows who we really are.
We all have the tendencies of rubbing things in. We all have the tendencies when we try to gain that recognition, and it is cool. We need those feelings sometimes to remind us that we are doing something right, but how we handle and react afterward matter. Humility speaks volume, more than we can try to, even with our proud words or actions.
Those thoughts will come, it is perfectly normal, but acting upon it shows the path that we have decided to take. No action would be considered blameless unless the will was so. For by the will, the act was dictated.
I sure learned and I hope we do too.
Thank you for your time.
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Thanks for this piece, as a human being the ego will come after a great achievement. That's the nature of human.
You see those footballer especially for the ones that score often, they constantly beat their chest anytime they score goals.
They are telling themselve "yes, I did it " but after some minutes they realized its not just there own efforts alone but also the team and later turn back to celebrate with the team.
It's always good to have a good self esteem but how we handle that situation is what defines us.
I remembered when I was in school, at tertiary level. I don't use to buy handouts rather would I buy any text book. I will Just go to the lecture room and making some notes down.
Despite I didn't have any materials compared to others, I will still be one of the best in the department.
Then people will be saying "how did you manage to do that "? "You are very brilliant oo " and so on like that.
But after some time, I will sit down and think, this is the God working because even those that have everything at their disposal have lesser grades.
Ego is constant and it will come as long as we are successful. What matters most is how we handle it.
Thanks for this piece @communitycoin and @olawalium
Good one brother. Ego will always come, as long as we achieve a level of success and how we handle it, speaks a lot about our character.
I like that.
Thanks a lot.
Day-to-day tends to enjoy more pleasure than life struggle. This happens because everything - what is applied in the family is only the rules without a good example so it can not be permeated its meaning. Similarly, Pancasila is a good rule and very useful for the nation of Indonesia but if not impregnated its meaning then the implications of Pancasila result is only zero. Read also, Norms Difficult to apply Without a Surface Tauladan.
Basically a child is God's entrustment mandated to parents to be well educated. Conscious or unconscious in everyday parent sometimes have arrogance (not humble) in leading yourself. This can be seen from how they deal with life if tried by God's example, tried with problems, tried with pleasure, tried with sadness. The arrogant nature brings one to feel right without the error correction that is in him. They feel that they are right in doing something, they are not aware that they are wrong in leading themselves and wrong in leading the person he leads.
Humble / not arrogant people are always humble in any case they always set an example and imitate the goodness of others. The humble person is always thirsty for science and never feels perfect. If a sense of humility has been embedded in a person from the young then it will ease the life going forward. The humble person if cheered is not too, if sad not too, if angry not too. Because he is aware that every human being will surely be tested by his God, because he is aware that everything in the world is not perfect. The humble person does not forget himself because it is always self-reflected.
Love the build up to the main point. Classy. Good one and well done.
Thank you for this.
Like I said yesterday that humility is the mother of all virtues because it encompasses purity, charity and obedience. It is in being humble that our love becomes real and perfect. Humble spirit is always respected. I go by this saying that a spirit that bow down will always be lifted up whether biblically or in reality. Being humble give us the reason why life should not be taken as do or die affairs. Since you will be always be compose and see life as a thing that would pass away in a matter of time. No matter how hard we try to make things happen without be humble and play our maturity in any situation we find ourselves it will be difficult to be successful at all time we do. Being humble doesn't give room for arrogance, it makes someone keeps it head on his toe.
Thanks for sharing your personal experience, it really matched the title well.
There are some certain things that do hinder us from showing enough respect for people, that is when we are trying to gain recognition above our mate and even colleagues. Above all, we should always swallow our pride and respect others people decision.
Thank you for your kind words and this lovely comment brother. I really appreciate your constant depth and support. Gracias amigo.
This conclusion is a complete post on it's own.
It is not easy to stay humble at all times, but one just need to keep reminding himself of who he is no matter what. People will surely step on your toes, they will test your patience, they will want you to voice out in annoyance, but the ability to stay humble at such time is humility.
I don't know the criteria you used in calling your team the weaker one... Lol
But, the olawalium I know always make those around him better. The score would been like 10-3 if you were allowed to play in your favourite number 7 position, who will stop all those powerful shots? ...lol
Thank you @olawalium and @communitycoin
Hahahahahahahaha. Thanks always for your kind words. I called the weaker team because most of us are either slow in running, lack ball control, some can't even tackle or put together a good number of passes. You know in a team, you will definitely know the good players and the not too exceptional players? So to test our mettle, the coach put together the not too talented players, and added just few of us to them.
Lol, got your point bro.
But the team that play as team would always outsmart and outscore the bunch of starts without the team spirit. Ahahahha
Nigeria Vs Argentina is a perfect example... Lol
Hahahaha let's hope they won't disgrace us this time.
This is very true
I have seen people who, once successful or achieve some major achievements, suddenly become arrogant and allow their achievements get to them.
Hmmn
I love your story
I've been in that shoe before where my ego comes in place of my humility and almost make me miss certain opportunities but thank God for the grace to be humble.
We will choose to be humble despite our trending victory.
Thanks for this beautiful write up.
I am glad you can also relate to the story and yes, our ego always want to step in, but we need to be reminded constantly about who we want to be.
Thanks a lot cutie and yes, we should choose to remain humble despite our trending victory.
Hi @communitycoin Your post is excellent and this is a great inspiration.
Mother Teresa was a teacher in a school in India, and all her needs were met in the convent where she lived. However, she chose to give up her life in that convent in order to live with the poorest of the poor on the streets of Calcutta, taking care of the very sick and dying. She took care of people with whom no one else wanted to bother.
The Missionaries of Charity is the name of the religious order Mother Teresa started. Women who join this order give up their possessions and live a life of great simplicity. When they find people dying in the streets and the slums, they take them into their hospitals, clean them up, give them medical care, and if they cannot recover, provide a clean and sanitary place to die with dignity.
To be big you must first learn to be small. Humility is the basis of true greatness ....
Have a wonderful night
I'm wishing you success and growth, and happiness
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Hug well received and given right back. You have spoken so well and i love this comment. This is really good. Thanks a lot for this.
Absolutely!.
Hi @olawalium Thank you very much for your kind words.
And this journey is not just for the average person, but one that many of our greatest leaders have embarked upon. To close with the words of one who knew humility, Nelson Mandela:
“As I have said, the first thing is to be honest with yourself. You can never have an impact on society if you have not changed yourself…Great peacemakers are all people of integrity, of honesty, and humility.”
Have a wonderful Tuesday
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This is gooooooood!. Love it. Thanks for these amazing comments.
@olawalium Thank you too for your generosity.
I wish you much success and happiness in all your future endeavors.
Have a nice day
You are really impressive. Nice to meet you. Thanks and i wish you the very best too.
@olawalium Thank you very much. It's a great pleasure to meet you too.
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Humility is being honest with oneself and others too. If a leader can demonstrate honesty and look back to his actions and behaviour, it can provide a tremendous opportunity for personal growth. We can all do the same things in our lives and admit that we all make mistakes and own up to them. Humility also helps us overcome conflicts and obstacles in life and thereby create harmonious situations in both our personal and professional lives. The same way arrogance can repel people, humility can bring them closer.
Humility surely bring people closer. Everyone is attracted to an humble person. We can always develop that trait.
Yes the calmness, maturity, experience and understanding defines humility, you need experience to understand the state someone is
You need to be calm to listen to people and treat them well enough
You need to be matured enough to understand situations
And you need understandings to get to know what people really mean even if they didn't say it out but you notice it through the action
Good one brother.
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