If there is something in your life that you don't want ask yourself how it serves you!
I will help you with some insights -
- Drama - is making your life interesting. If (you think that) your life is dull without meaning then you might create the drama to spice it up. You have still not found the way to see the beauty and glamour in your reality without a good old drama from time to time.
- Lack of abundance - you don't have enough money? ask yourself how it serves you. You might be choosing (unconsciously) to remain poor in order to avoid conflict with friends/family, or in order to feel pity about yourself, or in order to remain safe within the mass consciousness.
- Health - do you have a physical situation that you don't want? ask yourself how is this situation serving you. Maybe you create it to attract the love or attention from other people?
- No relationship - are you alone, and by yourself for a long time? How does it serve you? You may need this solitude to focus on your inner self without distraction (or so you believe); or you may choose to avoid the company of others because you are afraid to expose yourself and get close to someone, which basically is an issue of self-love.
For every situation in your life, ask how does it serve me? and the answer will surface to your awareness sooner or later. Then you can make the choice to release or persist.
That’s a great point! This might be the main difference between whether you are rich or poor. I’m not poor, I’m not rich either and I noticed many times when I go back in time, I somehow subconsciously refuse to become rich.
I understand why people try to create drama when they get bored. I’m witnessing it myself. My friends, my wife, including me, not too often, I’m a very patient non controversial and quiet person, but sometimes I have my moments as well. Basically everyone. I’m a bit confused about health. Does it mean people try to get attention because they are sick or because they are healthy. Perhaps both is the case and I agree. When it comes to relationships, my friend is alone, she has never been in any relationship. Is she afraid to be in relationship or to be exposed? I’ve always asked myself this question.
but ilness need attention. Whats wrong if patient demand attension?
It's not appropriate when people use sickness, time and again, to get attention and love. Such behavior destroys their health even more.
So I could say that my loneliness (which I don't consider to be what I have sought, but rather what I have been given) may be necessary to have a greater focus on myself? This could be completely valid, currently I seek to improve from within, life as a mom, totally change my life, it is likely that today I do not have time for love, at least I know I do not have time to look for it, time has been reduced in all areas, then the little time I focus on me and what I must improve and learn, I feel that spiritually there is a great void to correct, but all this leads me to a question, having a partner, I could not focus on me anymore? or if that happens, am I with the wrong partner?
Thank you very much for these interesting topics, happy saturday
With the right partner there is no "me" and "him". You two are a team so taking care of yourself is your mutual interest.
So it's like I thought, thanks for taking me away from the wrong choice!
Theme: How does it serve you?
This is really a pertinent question to ask at every point in your life. Just before you start worrying or drowning yourself in the thoughts, think about how that situation serves you.
I had never known that a bad situation could serve towards a positive end until I read this post with all your examples and I could relate to one.
Can totally relate to this. I am single right now and most times I just wish I could find someone to love. But when I have a second thought, I just realise how much I am not cut out for the mental and emotional stress which comes with dating and relationships .
I enjoyed this post...
את לא. 🙂
עדיין.
I'm not sure I agree with some parts of this post, especially not the ones about health.
As it is, I suffer from many various health issues, some from childhood (paralyzing migraines at least since I was 4 years old, maybe less), others from adolescence and onward (I was diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis at at age 34, but have been suffering from symptoms since I was 18). Both conditions don't serve me in any way that I can think of. I've never thought of myself as incapable, and I don't "give discounts" to myself because of these conditions, I do my work as I believe a person should, and I try to live my life as normally as possible (with the exceptions of going to the movies, which I miss greatly, and being careful not to over-exert myself physically otherwise).
I would really like to know what you think about such conditions, and how they can "serve me", as you say. I'm not asking this defiantly, I just want to understand your point of view, maybe there's something I'm not aware of and can indeed help me and others in the future.
Health issues from childhood are a different thing and the "how does the illness serve me" paradigm doesn't apply.
Nevertheless, it's almost a scientific fact that one's psychic status influences one's physical condition. You may want to read one of Louise Hay's books as a starting point on your journey to understand the connection in your case. There are some well based connections, but each case needs to be examined on its on. Therfore I will refrain from giving any specific suggestions.
I will just give two general comments.
I get the connection of the cancer to this matter, really. I've seen cases like this, it's very sad.
However, I'm intrigued by the books. Which Louise Hay book would you recommend?
I recently read a book by Joyce McDougall, The Many Faces of Eros, where she deals with psychosomatic issues of her patients. One of the things she said there, and was very interesting to me, was that sometimes medical conditions since childhood (like migraines) are caused by some early-infancy trauma in connection with the parental relationship, etc. I've been dying to know what the source of my migraines is. I am probably over-analyzing everything in life, but I don't think I've been doing it since I was 3-4yo, right? This makes no sense, considering the structure of the mind and its development, etc.
What would you say on something like this?
As for the RA, it's a well-known fact that autoimmune diseases and conditions are tightly connected with emotional issues and traumas. This is why I can say exactly when my symptoms began, although there was no medical evidence that linked it to my condition until 17 years later. But such diseases and conditions, to the best of my knowledge, cannot be cured, even if the reason that caused them was handled. Or have you heard differently? Again, I'd love to know.
I will use this words of yours as a slingshot to my main point. How does it serve you? 99% of the issues, problems, that we, humans, have are there to lead us towards enlightenment, towards opening up to the constant source that sustains us. This is a fundamental principle that governs life.
Every occurrence in your life is placed there, by you, to lead you to enlightenment.
Part of enlightenment is sovereignty. So again, if you accept what other people say about your life, and specifically the health situation, you are not sovereign. And the situation will remain until you make the step to claim your sovereignty. Do you want to heal? So why are you accepting what other tell you, that such illnesses can not be cured?! How does the surrender to other people's opinions serve you?!
The same with health issues from childhood. Now, it seems, there is a force bigger than life, that compels you to surrender. "it's been with me since childhood, so it's beyond my capacity to fix now as an adult". Or "it's caused by trauma when I was a child and since I can't go back in time, I can't fix it, so I'm doomed to live with it". Do you see the pattern?
The question remains, a victim or a master?
And as long as you choose to linger, as long as you prefer to not choose or worse, to be a victim, the situation will remain.Because it serves you!
"but it happened when I was a child", your rational mind says. "I was not over-thinking then, so how could those migraine be psychosomatic?!" I usually prefer to tell the mind to stop it, rather than give it more food to chew on, but I will give you a reasonable explanation because I know it will help you, your mind, to be willing to release its grip.
Re: Louise Hay - any book will do. Feel what suits you best and begin.
Hope I helped. Feel free to ask if you still have some questions. That is, if your mind needs more reassurances for what YOU already know so well.🙂
Okay, so far you've been saying many things that sound great and fine, and I like the notion of future-me who planted those migraines in my brain as a child (this sounds like something I would do, in all honesty), but saying "don't linger" or "don't accept it as it is" doesn't help. Of course I'd like to do something about it, but what do you do, in practice? Where do you even start to fathom the origin of whatever it is that haunts you?
Also, regarding the autoimmune condition - sure, I totally want to overcome it. I eat well, and while I don't live well, I definitely try to. If someone deals with an unknown domain, how can they fight it or work with/against it? What is even the first step one should take to heal from something that is considered unhealable? After all, this is not a virus or a type of bacteria you're fighting here, and not even an outside infection - this is your own body that attacks itself. Which is scary and creepy and freaky, and so far the entire world of medicine remains helpless when it comes to dealing with such things.
I'd love to be proven wrong. I'd love to learn something new. I'd be thrilled to have a fair chance of getting healthier and more energized, and actually to stop over-thinking things, too. But how?
I do hear you.
The answer I have for you, though very true, will be rejected by your mind which will consider it an enigma, or worse, a deception.
You ask what to do in practise. I say, nothing.
But to trust and believe.
Understand, you ARE healthy. Your body is healthy. Your body is designed to heal itself and return to balance. It does so all the time. Will you allow it to do so despite what your mind tells you?
For the only fight that is going on right now is within you, between the mind and the body.
It's beautiful that you do not give up (else you would not summon this correspondence).
You ask for practical steps.
Begin with this source:
https://www.amazon.com/Way-Toward-Health-Seth-Book/dp/1878424300
I don't know. I understand your point of view, but I know of people with RA or other diseases who have it much worse than I do - I know someone that at 20 years old had to undergo a hip and knee replacement because her joints were completely fused together. This is not a "mind over body" condition, in my opinion. There are things that even the strongest belief will have a hard time curing. How about severe allergies that can kill you, like nuts, or even those really strange allergies only 100 people in the world have, like allergies to sweat or water? And diseases like Coeliac?
A few years ago, I used to get regular reflexology treatments from someone who knew me very well. At some point she started getting really worried and ask me if there was something wrong with my kidneys. And me, what do I know, I feel fine, so I said no. And whenever she touched a specific point in my feet I'd flinch, because it hurt. And she got more and more worried. But apart from the pain in my foot, I was just fine.
A few weeks later, I realized I was walking with really bad shoes and replaced them. That was the end of that story. My kidneys were, and still are, just fine. And as I told her - sometimes, despite everything, a pain in my foot is simply that - a pain in my foot.
I'm not trying to discredit or disprove anything here, but especially as a therapist, isn't it important to doubt and consider the options that maybe, sometimes, a physical condition is exactly that, without an underlying mind thing?
Small issues, yes.
I do understand what you are saying.
The best healer is the person himself /herself.
And I do recommend that last book, though 🙂
Well, I have no objections as regards your post today, this is pure wisdom.... Smile
Everything that happens in our lives is as a result of our many choices. The choices you made yesterday is the reality of today, the one you are making now is shaping your tomorrow.
Consciously or unconsciously, we keep making choices.
Thanks friend.
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Thanks @nomad-magus for this eye opener, this is what i think as for now about what you have said about this subject.
When it comes to drama, the easiest way to heal from depression is getting to cinema halls for refreshment with laugh according to what is being presented normally from motivative speakers like the one i know from America. Am sure with that, a sense of recovery is realized.
Foe the case of lack of money is actively created by an individual and this arises from mind set which normally lives people lagging behind therefore, it is a good practice to get out of your comfortable zones and find what to focus on and in doing that, u will be creating the realities of life that you have always admired. I admire @nomad-magus for what i see from the writings thats for me.
Health is a tricky one where it is difficult to detect what their emotional illnesses unlike the physical which needs diagnosing. In this we know good health leads to progress in life and discovering the inner abilities.
if we do not have money why our heads sick because "no money.
Because human worry too much about money
why yes .. this man if the matter of lying money with myself for me this this man whose currency is stupid for me.
why our life in the world is not the same "the same thoughts of other humans, but we are all the same.
Because your thoughts do not create your experience
my experience is not much, still I've done what I do what people do