Why no sane person (really) believes in democracy

In our culture and media democracy is portrayed as great form of governance that we need to protect at all costs. Most people support it, but when looking at everyday behaviour (the things that really matter) they are not living in a democratic way at all.

Democracy means that the majority may decide. Lets say I want to organise an activity with my friends. Five of them want to play softball, the four others hate it and want to go swimming? If we are a democracy the outcome is clear, we will go and play softball and the four others will be forced to join.

But no sane person would do this. Instead of letting the majority decide, friendships are build on two fundamental principles that must be respected. These ideas are non-aggression and voluntarism. We cannot force our friends to do something and all decisions must be supported by 100%, not 51%. Possible outcomes could be that just the five go to play softball, or all friends together realise that everyone would be more or less happy to join for a game of soccer.

Instead of forcing census, we can split or find a compromise. Everybody, even the supporters of democracy know that this is superior than letting the majority decide for all. That is why we do not organise by democratic principles in everyday-life, but by non-aggression and voluntarism.

Then why is democracy still receiving that much support. There are a few major factors. First there is indoctrination leading to people never questioning democracy because that would imply you are a crazy nazi or something along those lines.
Second we are told that we cannot organise on large scales as we do based on common sense in our personal lives. Central authority is required to keep the society running. But that problem has already be solved by distributed trust on the blockchain.

Democracy is heavily centralised into artificial boundaries. When I would personally try to organise a vote among the people of my city, that would not be legally binding for anybody. It is just an expression of opinion. But when an "official party" does the same under the rules set by a "magical" contract, then it suddenly must be respected by all. Everybody has a right to vote, but we do not have the right to decide on what we vote, with whom we vote and which scope our votes should have. The reason is once again that democracy does not make much sense. If we decentralise democracy, then that means that every group at any time may cast democratic decisions and that would immediately result in chaos.

But if we cannot decentralise it (because people would never accept the proposal under voluntary terms), then the question remains why certain instances have powers that I do not have. And why a group of people, I do not even know and that has no personal connection to me, should have the right to decide over my life.

Democracy is not as great as we are told. In the end it is nothing but a mechanism to secure control that lets people believe they are actually in charge. It is much smarter than a dictatorship because the people do not see the cage they are living in. Morally democracy and dictatorship are on the same footing. Some people by force obtain the power to tell us what to do. The words they use to describe the system are just decoration.