It Shouldn't Be Just Words III, Contributed By @Olawalium
…continued… from part 1 and part 2
Often times we want to manipulate our friends or partners by affection, and we often fail to forget that they can see it too but might not just talk about it. These little cracks would go a long way to cause lack of trust sometimes. When you act without thought and then try to take advantage of the situation by being insensitive to the way the person feels, you are going to have on your hands someone dishonest, uncommitted and insincere to you. Why would he or she care about how you feel when you can’t even bring yourself to say sorry with all sincerity and remorse?
Most of the time we work against ourselves and if you want people to stick with you longer, then you must be ready to drop all the emotional blackmail of showing you are a lady, then all the ego; to prove you are a guy and all the ‘smartness’. When you don’t do these, you are surrounding yourself with people who can’t trust you and you can’t have sincere and honest people around you if they won’t trust you.
Like I said earlier, sometimes we are scared of saying sorry because we don’t want to lose that ‘control’ but in the long run, we will end up losing it when those people eventually walk away. You need to ask yourself, what is important, the control or that person’s relationship? If it is the relationship, then reach out and show that you care, show that you are truly remorseful and show that you want to make things right.
Most of the times the ladies believe the world revolves around them and they want you to tell them sorry repeatedly but they would never do the same on the flip side of the coin. Guys are emotional too; they have flesh and blood and when they notice this attitude in you, they will leave and not look back and you should ask yourself if not saying sorry is truly worth letting the person go. Men also get tired emotionally when you keep using your female wiles thinking you can always get away with it.
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Many of us fail to sorry even when we know that we have wrong our partners or friends. Mostly because we felt that we have little or nothing to lose. Some would say, he or she doesn't have options, he or she will surely come back to beg me after all, I'm the one that give more in the relationship. No matter the position we are holding, we shouldn't feel big to apologise when we are wrong. The problem is many attached too much important to themselves.
Absolutely! We all often times focus too much on ourselves and allow our ego to come into play. We think the other person will come around but then when we think this way, it shows we are taking such person for granted. No one likes being taken for granted and this attitude of not saying sorry has ruined so many great friendship.
If it is a matter of remorse or accepting mistakes, it should not be preoccupied in both, but what should be done should be done with a clean mind. The deceit should not be deceptive at all.The string of faith is very fragile, there should not be any scope of suspicion, otherwise the relationship does not take long to break.
Attitude should not have any place in the relationship.Relationships are related to emotions, whose broken sound is not heard, but pain is very much.
Relationships require love and sacrifice on both sides
Thank you friend @olawalium
Brilliant! Relationships are related to emotions; whose broken sound can't be heard but the pain echoes thunder. What a brilliant way to express this. It takes a great level of humility to apologize when you know you have done wrong.