Loving friends is normal. However, how can you be sure that what you feel is not really romantic love? Sometimes it is difficult to know the difference between platoon friendship and other types of love. If confused, try evaluating your friendship relationship. Think about when you experience a sense of love for a friend or friend. You can also consider priorities. What do you look for in a partner? Do you want to bring the relationship to the next level? There are several ways to know that without sacrificing friendships.

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Method 1. Evaluating Friendships

1. Assess your feelings. Think about how much of your emotional power to him. There are many similarities in feelings to friends and lovers, but when falling in love, the feeling is very intense. In general, the more intense you feel for someone, the more likely that you fall in love.

• For example, you feel a special connection because you both can laugh at the same jokes and is perfect when chatting. When loving someone, the feeling becomes more intense. You may feel drunk or very excited.

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2. Pay attention to physical reactions. The body is also capable of showing signs of love. When you are with a loved one, the heart beats faster or as if there is a butterfly flapping in the stomach. Maybe you are nervous and confused yourself. When with an ordinary friend, you probably will not giggle or sweat for no reason.

• You may be happy when you meet friends. However, no physical changes are felt when looking at or embracing them.

• With a loved one, you may not be able to control the body's reaction. For example, sweaty palms, weakening sounds, or increased heart rate.

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3. Compare the relationship with this friend and the relationship with other friends. Think about your friendship with others, and how they differ. Maybe you have lots of friends, but only one you might love. The relationship with her feels more valuable. You may feel a more intense connection.

• You can not imagine a day pass without speaking to her. For ordinary friends, you may be calm if you do not meet for a week or two. However, with a loved one, a day feels forever.

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Method 2. Deciding What You Want

1. Decide whether you want a romantic relationship. Love and friendship can be distinguished by thinking about the attention you give. When loving someone, you must often think of him and want to keep in touch with him. You will not think about friends that often, and also do not feel the urge to chat with ordinary friends.

• You might think of a friend when something reminds you of him, like a song he likes or a similar experience.

• When loving someone, he will continue to be in your mind all day, whether there is a reminder or not. Maybe you also fantasize about him unknowingly.

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2. Know how much attention you want. Are you happy with the way you treat you? If he only shakes when meeting, maybe you want a more affectionate greeting. Maybe you want him to send messages more often. Not hearing the news all day from a friend certainly not as disappointing as not to hear from loved ones.

• If you are very excited if he contacts or is tickled in the stomach when his name appears on your phone, it may be a sign that you want a romantic relationship.

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3. Talk to other friends or family members. You may not be able to be objective with yourself. So, try talking to a trusted person, like a close friend or relative. They can assess your special friend's attitude from an outsider's point of view, and give an opinion whether the relationship is only friendship or has become love.

• For example, a friend or relative can see that this special person is looking at you when you are not paying attention. They also notice that he often talks about you, and that's a sign that he also thinks you are more than a friend.

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4. Ponder your feelings. Understanding emotions is not easy, and sometimes it takes a lot of contemplation. To help decide, think about how you feel.

• Make a list to record your feelings in a week. Write down what you feel when chatting with him or thinking about him. For example, write that you're excited when she calls or gets nervous when you're out with her.

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5. Pour the feeling in the diary. Spend a few minutes each day to write your interactions with the people around. This helps you know if you are different to him when compared to other friends. Through this paper, you can also realize whether he treats you as a friend or lover.

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Method 3. Go further

1. Gather confidence. Maybe you are very nervous about trying to convert a friendship into a love affair. That's normal. However, try to be confident. Confidence can help you find the right words to say and find ways to get them.

• Encourage yourself. Try saying, "I'm a fun and caring person. Doni was lucky to have me."

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2. Keep a little seduction. You can test the waves by seducing a little. Start by looking into his eyes for a second longer than usual. You can also pay more attention. If you're with other friends, focus your chats with them.
Touch him casually.

• Hold his hand while laughing together.

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3. Accept the response. If he does not feel the same, of course you are hurt. You may feel rejected and sad. Try to understand that he may not want to hurt your feelings, but he must be honest. Do not make him feel guilty. If you do not know what to say, try the following suggestions:

• "Thank you to be honest with me. I hope you also have the same feelings, but I know your feelings can not be changed like turning your palms."

• "I appreciate your honesty. I still want to be friends, but I hope you know I need time to get over this feeling."

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Note:

• All of these illustrations are a reflection of myself. And I try to express it through painting. I do have both the same hobbies of writing and drawing.

• My artworks are some of the things I make in mid-2017 and some again in 2018

• I made it with watercolors on canon paper, because the paper has a rough surface and easily absorbs watercolors.

• Lastly, I hope you enjoy and love this simple article.

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