RELATIONSHIP TIPS : LOVE AND PURITY.

in #bigwaves6 years ago

I believe it has been established in the course of my blog posts I send everyday that love is not merely a feeling but an action. Love is an action word; it's something you do. It is much more than an emotional high but it will eventually give birth to feelings.

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Love is more of a commitment; a deliberate decision backed up by a conviction. In its expressions it is known to be divided into the following types:

  1. Brotherly love - Sterego
  2. Sexual love - Eros
  3. Friendship love - Phileo
  4. Unconditional love - Agape

Sexual Love is the one that is most spoken about in today's world and it has been I believe, abused due to the lack of understanding of its purpose, the reason why it was made by the Creator. It exists between a man and a woman and it's only natural that such love would want to be expressed in physical ways to one's spouse or partner.

Today's relationship tips would show you ways and explain how and why it's paramount to exercise purity in our relationships. Some of the things I will share today will also help the married as they seek to overcome distractions.

1. PURPOSE IN YOUR HEART -

This is one of the weapons that I believe should be taught to the young ones even as they grow. Like Daniel did, he made up his mind not to defile himself with the food that was served on the kings table. In the same way, before we think of dating/courting anyone we should make up our minds to keep ourselves pure sexually and to abstain from sex until after the exchange of vows.

2. CHOOSE A RIGHT PARTNER -

By this I mean a person who has the same moral standards as you do. Choose someone who has embraced the teaching of God's Word about the fact that it is only in marriage the bed is undefiled; outside marriage sex is considered a defilement. Select a person who is determined to abstain from sex till the time is right. Only at that would the both of you encourage each other to be patient.

3. PRAY ABOUT IT -

Staying pure is a strong battle in this time and age and prayer is one of the strong weapons you can't afford to ignore. The power of prayer is vital here. The more we give ourselves to God in prayer, the more we will be filled with the strong desires to do what is right.

4. PREVENT BEING ALONE IN ENCLOSED PLACES -

As much as this sounds impossible, it takes discipline to make it happen. The human nature is cunning and wants to throw caution to the wind. Even Jesus said the flesh is weak. Somehow we are helped by the presence of others. You can always have a friend or family member around and if you have to be alone, then try taking a walk. Someone would say but there's no fear in love. This isn't an issue of being afraid. It's wisdom that is profitable to direct.

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5. KEEP SEXUAL COMPATIBILITY TALKS SIMPLE -

Everyone I know wants to get married to someone with whom they would have no problem sexually but the truth of the matter is that there will be no problem if we let God lead us and if we do our own part of the bargain by following His leadings.

6. DO NOT HAVE A LONG COURTSHIP/ENGAGEMENT -

This is because true love grows; it's a living thing. It is wise not to start something serious when you don't see marriage in view in the next two years. Keep simple friendships until you are ready to settle with someone soonest. No hurries in life. There is an old adage that says the beautiful ones are not yet born.

7. MAKE THE COMMITMENT AND DAILY TRUST GOD TO KEEP YOU -

After all said and done, we must realize that we cannot keep ourselves but the strong desire to be kept pure must be there if you must enjoy a testimony of purity in your relationship. It is God who keeps us and sustains us. Let's throw ourselves totally on God grace (God's help) knowing fully well that staying pure is not by our power or by our might but by the assistance of God's Spirit.

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