Love & Marriage 165 - Family Part 3 - Parenting responsibilities
I am doing a series of posts on families. I did write on this a couple of months ago but I want to write about it again.
Parenting responsibilities
Children are a gift from God. They can be delightful and enrich your marriage so much, but there are also those times when they drive you crazy. Life is very much simpler before you have children. There is time to relax, pursue hobbies, spend time with friends and develop togetherness. With Children life seems so full and your time doesn't belong to just the two of you anymore. Parenting is a 24 hour-a-day responsibility. The changing lifestyle accompanying children forces the two of you to be more determined and creative in building togetherness. There is also the added opportunity of a new arena for practical togetherness.
Too often the task of parenting is done individually rather than as a couple. Individual time with your children can be special, but there are also needs to be family time. The security, growth, and bonding of a healthy family require a husband and a wife who intentionally work together toward a set of common goals. A strong family is one of the most important legacies any couple can leave. So set your goals and work as a team to develop a great family.
What should these goals be?
Togetherness.
Enjoy spending time together.
Respect.
Respect one another's thoughts, feelings, boundaries and possessions.
Acceptance, appreciation and affirmation.
Encourage and build one another up.
Love.
Care about one another and communicate your love.
Rules and responsibilities.
Follow agreed-upon rules and share family responsibilities.
Communication.
Talk to one another about what is on your hearts and mind.
Fun and laughter.
Relax and have good times together.
Honesty.
Be honest and truthful with one another.
Traditions.
Set routines, patterns and traditions that bring you closer.
Priorities.
Live in a way that demonstrates your priorities of faith, family and friends.
Thank you for reading. May you and your family grow together.
NEXT POST: 5 MAJOR PARENTING RESPONSIBILITIES
I recently became involved in @familyprotection and this made it for me necessary to look at family and what is happening to families today. To research and see why is this happening to families and what can we do. One of the main reasons I also wrote about Love and marriage is to help couples to stay married. Most of the times when couples divorce it is the kids who are scarred the most.
Source: Blueprints for a solid marriage, Dr. Steve Stephens, Tyndale House Publishers.
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I can relate to this. I am blessed to have such a great family, but I have seen cases where the parents didn't go justice to the upbringing of their kids and the testimony isn't pleasant.
Sometimes, this could happen when parents don't spend time with their kids just like you said. I know of a couple where the hardly see their kids, but they all stay together. They both leave very early to work and always come back late from work. The kids are left at the mercy of their nanny. It's really sad when parents fail to understand that they are "caretakers" of God's children. I wish I could show this great article to that couple, but unfortunately I don't also see them.
Thank you for commenting @ammyluv. Yes it is sad if parents neglect their children's upbringing. And it effects will be felt by that children, their spouses someday, their families and in the end the whole society. Was nice to hear from you, blessings!
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Thank you dear @thetreehugs. Hope you are doing well. God bless!
You are most welcome my friend.. and yes, I am busy but fine!
bad parental upbring is some of the reasons why so many children out there are unuseful to the society, criminals, drug adict, etc
Its far more than just giving birth to a child, parental up-bring matters alot.
May God empower us.
God bless you all
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Thank you for commenting @orisfina. Blessings to you too!
Thanks alot
family gives us care,love and protection
Thank you for commenting. Blessings!
This is more important point, means, after having an child the whole life will change for both husband and wife, but this not mean that, it's doesn't mean that this responsibility is bad, in turn you need some adjustments and some new plans to make it for the new situations, because every phase and every relation is really critical, but sometimes i see some parents who both go for the jobs leaving their children at home and pass that responsibility to third person for the security of their child, i don't know what's the thinking of other, i am not married, but in this my view point is they are just giving priority to their job than their children, because when giving birth to an child, as an parent, mother or Father should be there to care. And i agree, children can fulfil once life. Thanks for sharing and wishing you an great day. Stay blessed. 🙂
Thank you for commenting and your insight. If we had a choice I would prefer all woman to stay at home and raise their children. But it is not a guarantee that that stay at home mom, will raise the children well. If she doesn't give attention and watch Tv the whole day it can be just as bad for that children. I was working and my children were looked after by a nanny. But at night and on weekends my husband and I were responsible for their upbringing, teaching them values and morals and to serve God.
Thanks for understanding my point, i wrote this because there are children around us who cry for their parents when both went for the office. It's really unfortunate for me to see those children crying.