Love & Marriage 178 - Keeping the romance alive after your your baby is born.
You are in love!
You look at that beautiful face, you tell him how precious he is, you snuggle close to him. You are in love with your baby and that is how it should be!
BUT It was not so long ago that you felt that way about your husband.
If you are like most new moms, you will be directing most of your emotional energy towards this precious little one. Between the exhaustion of taking care of your new baby and being not so happy with your body after the baby, you may start to look at your husband as a friend that stays with you and that sleep in the same bed. Sex and romance is way down on your to-do-list.
Well, let's turn that list upside down. Even if you think you're not interested in getting some nookie right now, keeping the romance alive in your marriage will not only make you a happier person, it will make you a better parent, says Ellen Kreidman, PhD, a marriage counselor and author of How Can We Light a Fire When the Kids Are Driving Us Crazy? (Villard).
"The happiest, most well-adjusted children come from a home where Mommy and Daddy truly love each other," she points out. And that affection doesn't just sustain itself -- you need to stoke the fires every so often to keep it going.
If you are waiting to come into the mood for romance, I have some news for you, it is not going to happen.
You will have to make it happen. If you have time to do household chores like cooking, laundry etc., you have time for romance. Remember sooner than you think the baby will be growing up and needing less of your attention but your husband and marriage won't be waiting forever to also get some of your attention. You cannot afford to neglect your marriage while the baby is growing up!
Here are some every day romantic things you can do!
You were used to holding hands when you take a walk, now you need both hands to push the stroller. Be creative and find some new ways to touch while taking a walk, like, link your arms, stop now and then to give a kiss.
When hubby is leaving for work, don't just give a peck on the lips. Take 15 seconds for real intimate kiss.
Find some new things to compliment your spouse on each day. Your wife confidence may be low as her body has not returned to the way it was before and she doesn't get that much time to spend on herself. Your husband may feel neglected, so let him feel special.
The times when you are busy in the kitchen or where ever in the home, be playful and flirty with each other, graze his behind, or pull her close for a kiss and rediscover the chemistry that's still between you.
Please, please, please don't start calling each other "mommy" and "daddy" that are your added roles now but that doesn't define who you are. She is still your angel and you are still her darling! Use the pet names that you used to call each other.
Keep sticky notes at hand and write each other notes. When you go out to work, leave a note for her telling her how you are going to miss her during the day. Put a note in his briefcase telling him tonight, you will make time to be intimate, you will make his day. Remember if you do this, you have to keep your word.
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If both of you're too exhausted to do anything more than watching TV, lie on the couch, hugging or just sit and tight and hold hands.
Draw a sign saying: I love you, I miss you can't wait to see you tonight take a selfie and sms or email to him/her.
If you work on these romantic gestures, you will sooner than later feel that you are in the mood for lovemaking.
Baby or no baby, husbands should know by now that your wife, in any case. need this type of intimacy to get in the mood for sex. Wives should know that to have sex is a need for your husband to stay connected with you. That is how he wants and needs to express his love for you.
Thank you for reading, have a happy marriage and happy parenting!
Source: https://www.parents.com/parenting/relationships/staying-close/keeping-romance-alive-once-baby-arrives
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Children are more important aspect once they entered into the life but as you said before, if parents have balanced relationships in life then that inturn will leads to the great environment for children, so people have to strive hard to bring that balance in life when one responsibility increases, and without experience i want to say that they can make the schedule as an fun or game way because whatever daily activities we have, if we plan in an gaming way like dividing the work in an fun way and with each others support the life becomes more satisfying, and most important thing is understanding, people who have strong understanding in relationships then they can balance their life more effectively. Thanks for sharing this post with us and wishing you an great day. Stay blessed. 🙂
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