Handle It Better VIII, Contributed By @olawalium.

in #courtship6 years ago

…continued… from part 1 and part 2 and part 3 and part 4 and part 5, part 6 and part 7


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If you want to have a happy marriage, you lay the foundation during courtship. You don’t prepare for war in the time of war, you prepare for war in a time of peace. This is the time that will set the tune for what is to come and you need to set it right. If at this stage, you are acting unbothered about the feelings of your spouse, and you are not sacrificing anything for your spouse, then you are getting warmed up for a time of unhappiness afterwards. Like I always tell people, do what is best for you.

I once left a lady because I couldn’t bear the controlling figure of her mother, over everything. It sounds cold but that is the truth. I always do things with the future in sight. When I noticed the situation isn’t getting better, I have to think of my happiness and the future. In my language there is this adage and it goes thus:

Nkan ti o ba ni gba ni olowo, ati talaka ni a ti ma n ko; What you will never accept when you are rich, you reject it right from when you are poor. (Why? Because it might be too late to reject it when riches come and also, when you start rejecting it at that stage, they might call it pride.


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What you don’t want in your future, you deal with it now. A decision can set the tone for the rest of your life.

Security is important to women. Let her feel secure in your relationship and she would go any length for you. Don’t subject her to a second class affection.

Handle things better and mark your territory as well as hers.

THE END


Thank you for your time.


My pen doesn’t bleed, it speaks, with speed and ease.

Still me,

My tongue is like the pen of a ready writer.

Olawalium; (Love’s chemical content, in human form). Take a dose today: doctor’s order.


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Great @olawalium , right decision taken at the right time is better for happy life. Do what you want. And that's all.

In a relationship, you can't always do what you want, especially where another person's feeling is concerned. We need to make decisions with the other person in mind.

Every women and in any part of world always feel insecure with presence of other women. It is better to make all the confusion cleared before getting into any kind of relation. The more things are open the better it for living a happy life.

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