Disease is a way to get what you can't get without disease.

in #disease6 years ago (edited)

Some psychotherapists believe that almost all diseases are based on a psychological cause. But classical medicine officially recognizes seven diseases in which the psychosomatic factor is the leading. They are isolated in the "Chicago seven".

The disease arises as a way to meet the needs that have happened — in another way it is impossible to meet.
So what does the disease allow?


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Take care of yourself without feeling guilty

Medicines, all kinds of care products, expensive tests, procedures, examinations – all this is provided to you, just because you are sick.

Try the same amount to spend on a stylist or massage course. For several generations of women-it is unacceptable. There's always something that needs money.

Right to rest

The paradox is that most modern women, even if they become freelancers or have a free schedule, still live by the principle that says – "a woman has only two cases when she can do nothing – it is a pregnancy or illness."

And our entire system is built on this principle. A child cannot not go to school if he does not want to. The only reason he can skip school is because of his illness. It's absurd, isn't it ?!

The right to care for loved ones

The ability to feel like a woman who is cared for. Somehow it is not accepted to take care of "strong, smart and successful", especially those who can take care of themselves. "He took the gouges, do not say that not a dozen." The disease gives the right to this care and tenderness.
If the loved ones continue to ignore even these unambiguous messages of help, the disease will progress, and in some moment these requests will have to be heard. Duties in the intensive care unit will be provided.

Attention of family and friends

Illness is a way to feel special, worthy of attention. You are discussed, about you say. You become the theme of the day.

Regard

A person who endures terrible suffering, along with pity and sympathy, even with thoughts: "Lord, God forbid me such..."causes trembling and respect.

If what you are doing at the moment, for some reason does not cause respect (especially for yourself), then a serious illness will give this respect. And the desire to feel like a “hero” has not been canceled.

Opportunity not to decide what needs to be solved

When a child is seriously ill, the idea of divorce will have to be postponed.

Own a strong disease will force to wait with new projects and change of activity. Long-term care for a loved one is a good reason not to ask questions of personal life and career.

The ability to pause, slow, listen to yourself

When the disease life slows down sharply, and comes to the fore that previously ignored and not seen. Each breath, each step becomes important.

"The last will of the dying"

To the desires of the sick person it is customary to listen, and having got sick, you can finally get her husband to fix the taps and attach the falling off handle on the door. Not to mention other more global requests.

See the world from the other side. The disease allows you to get into another reality.

If you had a few hours in a row to look at the folds of the fabric on the lampshade, or examine the figures of strange animals in the cracks on the ceiling – you know what I mean. When, the only thing you can-it's hours to look at one square meter per meter, the world appears in front of you from the other side.

Rethink your life

A serious illness makes you think about what you previously preferred not to think . When there is a prospect that maybe this is the end, then all the lies about yourself and your life somewhere disappears, and you stay with the truth. And at this moment there is a global reinstallation of the system. A reassessment of your life.

Needs are things that have to be met. The only question is the method. If an adult for some reason is not ready to present their needs openly, then unconsciously included "body theater" and these needs will be satisfied through manipulation of the body – ie disease.

Congenital diseases or diseases of children up to 6-8 years - this is mom's unconscious order. A way to meet their needs through the disease of the child. Ranging from not to leave a job before finding your personal women's mission – "mom's seriously-ill child".

To recognize such things "head-on", without proper readiness is impossible. Included a strong psychological protection.

Therefore, it makes sense to approach the awareness gradually:

— Ask yourself: What allows me to get this disease? Make a list. Sincerely with examples.

— Live each item. Without condemning yourself, but with the recognition of this way of getting something very important for yourself.

— Allow yourself to receive the same openly in relationships, presenting your needs, talking about them. Confessing to yourself.

The disease goes away when it no need.

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Informative post with significant title. Thanks for sharing.

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