Ways to develop the act of keeping promises in youths : how to respect the commitments made

Keeping the promises and respecting the commitments made today seem to have become weak and improvised values , while at one time the word of a person was as good as his signature. People, in fact, carefully reflected on their ability to keep promises before agreeing to something. It was definitely a more respectful way of living!
Many people today know that they do not intend to honor their commitments before accepting them. Not keeping promises intentionally and premeditated is an increasingly widespread and accepted behavior. The reason lies in the fact that people do not understand the psychological cost of such an attitude . When teens do not keep their word, it can result to both external and internal costs . Lose trust, credibility and respect in interpersonal relationships , jeopardizing the relationship with friends, family, relatives, colleagues and clients.

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In teenagers it create problems in their life and in those of people who depend on them to carry out activities and projects, whether it's writing a report on time, arriving on time to go to the cinema or cleaning the garage. After some time they stop keeping their promises and not sticking to commitments, those around them start not trusting anymore , as they realize they can not count on their word. The lose of authority with them and relationships inevitably deteriorate. Now do you understand how important it is to keep the word given?

Promises bring friends, but not keeping the promises turns them into enemies.

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Keeping the promises in relation to self-esteem

When you make a commitment, you must make sure that it is a good agreement for yourself. Even if you make a deal with someone else, it's still a promise you make to yourself , as well as others. Not keeping your word date in any way means betraying yourself , and this causes loss of self-esteem .

You lose confidence in your ability to meet your commitments, weakening your sense of integrity . In short, do not say what you know you would not do , create confusion, doubts and uncertainties. Believe me if I tell you it's not worth it!

When you realize how important your integrity and self-esteem are, you will stop making commitments lightly, without the belief that you can keep your promises. You will no longer sell your self-esteem for a momentary approval . You will not make agreements that you do not intend to respect. Surely you will make less agreements and you will force yourself to keep your word.

Only by understanding the importance of respecting the commitments made , you realize that you have the ability to do it. In short, it is about understanding what you are giving up. The personal power that you acquire by being able to keep promises is remarkable since it positively affects many aspects of your person and your life : self-esteem, self-confidence, self-esteem, mental clarity, energy, respect for others and credibility.

How to keep a promise: practical advice to meet the commitments made

Here are a series of tips to make less commitments and keep your promises:

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Take only commitments that you intend to respect- Promises are easy to make, but difficult to maintain. So before you make a commitment, take the time to evaluate if it really is what you want to do . If you have any doubts, be cautious and do not export . If you take a commitment only for the approval of others, it is very likely that you will end up not respecting it.

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Write down all the commitments you make- Use a diary, a notebook, a calendar or a document on the PC to record all the commitments . Sometimes we can not keep a promise simply because we are distracted by the many activities and tasks that are pressing into daily life . By creating a task list, just keep an eye on it to keep your word. You can have extraordinary intentions, but if you forget to do what you have agreed to do, the result is the same as when you deliberately choose not to keep your promises .

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Notify in time the failure to comply with the commitments undertaken- If for any reason you can no longer meet the commitments made: the car does not start, you are stuck in traffic, you have had a setback at work, the baby-sitter can not come, the computer stops working - warn the other person immediately and renegotiate the pact . This shows that you are sensitive and that you can respect the time and needs of others. Give the counterpart the time needed to plan a new agreement and try to limit the damage, remedying any consequences.

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Learn to say “NO” more often- Give yourself time to meditate before making a commitment. When you think you can not keep your promises, it's better to say “NO” right away.

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Establish a consequence if you do not keep the commitment- Motivated by setting a price to pay in case you can not keep a promise . The important thing is that any price to pay is perceived by you as something really heavy so as to push you to meet the commitments made , whatever the cost. The consequence, in short, should consist of something you absolutely want to avoid such as paying a certain sum of money to the person you disappointed, stop eating pizza for a month or even shaving your hair to zero.

As a teen if you want to pursue a path of personal growth you will also have to commit yourself to keep your promises : this will make you a person of value. Remember that you are worthy as much as your word; therefore never disregard it.