Using your Own Standards of Judgement - A Responce to Ecotrain QOTW

The @ecotrain Question for this week is -

Why do you think most people judge each other. Is there value in it, does it help?

Looking at the "why" it does seem to be a part of human nature.
It could be for the betterment - having good judgement (defined as good sense) or
for the detriment - being judgemental (defined as condemning, critical especially in moral matters.)

The words judge and criticize seem to have some correlation to me. When looking up the definitions -

Judge

form an opinion about, estimate, appearance.

Criticism

find fault with; censure

I have been on the receiving end of criticism and noticed in myself when it happened quite often I would start to develop a fear of being judged and would not feel free to be myself.

Thus, I would put out a word of caution that it is better if you can get to know someone before you start to criticize or judge them.

When you judge people on a superficial level, judging them by how they dress, where you find them, you may miss out on a great connection.
Take for instance someone who looks a little ragged and you label them as a bum, when the truth is they may be a highly developed person who could have departed some wisdom to you.

I want to take this deeper with some thoughts that came about after having read Jordon Peterson's book "12 Rules for Life. An Antidote for Chaos"

His Rule #6

Set Your House in Perfect Order Before You Criticize the World"

This is a pretty bold statement but stands in good steed when you begin to judge other.

Look at yourself first, what type of person are you? What is your character? Do you admire it?

If you are criticizing others is that because a part of you wants to be elevated. Do you do it just to boost your own ego?
Perhaps it has gotten so bad that you start to criticize reality itself as not sufficient enough or worse yet you start criticizing Being itself.

Or can you see clearly and take responsibility?

If you have taken full responsibility for yourself, can you let go of looking outside yourself, blaming and criticizing others?

Have you cleaned up your life, your character? If not what better time than now to START!
To recognize and stop living out those character flaws.
Start paying attention and if you start seeing corruption arising , arrest it and bring out those better qualities instead.

Never being too harsh on yourself but being accepting and knowing your limitations.

Another quote from Peterson's book -

How can a person who is awake avoid outrage at the world?

Know that you can't change the reality of the world but you can change your own being.

Another quote:

Every person is to complex to know themselves completely and we all contain wisdom that we cannot comprehend.

Have you ever had that feeling when your entire being is trying to tell you something?
Pay attention to that and have good judgement and build good character.
Something you can speak of with honor.

Use your own standard of judgement on yourself first.
You may find this will bring about better relationships.
You'll find you will become a better judge of character.
Use that to decide who to associate with, who is deserving of respect and who to get more involved with.

Keep checking in on your ways of being and see what changes you can make. Your judgement will improve, your life may become simpler and it can give you more confidence for moving forwards.

Who knows, perhaps you may even become a powerful force for peace and along the way make some wonderful connections.

Hey! What if more people did this - can you see the possibility for a more peaceful and loving world? I can.

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