How do friends influence the way children see and understand life?
We usually spend a lot of time interacting with people or with those who are called friends, and many parents worry about these friendships of the children.
It is very true that we must be aware of who the children come together with, and that until approximately ten (10) or eleven (11) years old, the parents are the children's reference and they want to imitate them when they are older, but as of adolescence, that power of influence is not only in the parents but also in the group of friends.
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When children's influence groups are those that study, have values, are responsible and that in some way promote good, then they have a power of positive influence.
But when you meet people who are on the opposite path, this only leads to something bad, and it is something to worry about.
Children's friends are important, but they are also very influential people.
What happens when the child is already a teenager and the friendships influence?
When children are entering the stage of adolescence, they want to belong to a group, it is the age of the felt feelings, but if they do not consolidate that personality with the scale of values, if they do not have sufficient self-esteem and security, they will want to imitate all the behaviors and this talks about the way of dressing, the music, what they eat, the form of expression, to feel accepted by the group.
Is it possible to influence the choice of children's friendships?
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You can try to do it while they are small in the following way:
- Take children from small to places where there are other children who are well with their personality and behavior.
- Invite friends home and in that way observe and determine if they are convenient or not. In this way, both the child and the representative will realize how is the deal between both parties, the respect, the way of communication, the topics of interest.
- The adult does not have to imitate the children, but he has to have a behavior and an open mind, so that the children feel comfortable.
Why are friends attractive?
By the way they communicate. Friends talk about the things that attract them, and parents and / or representatives tend to ask about things that interest them, instead of focusing on children and this is contradictory.
The scale of values. The topics of conversation are reinforced, whether technology, they like to do the same things and feel accepted.
The importance of the sense of belonging. The important thing of being able to feel understood, and this is achieved through bidirectionality. This is based on reliability among people.
How can communication between adults and children be improved, to understand them in the choice of friendships and guide them in decisions?
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One of the ways is to get involved in conversation topics, which for children are also important.
It is necessary to involve them in the adult's life, to know how they think, how they can solve problems, to know the points of view, for the children to participate and then include them in theirs.
It is also important in terms of communication to set aside the prejudices, the value judgments that are made with children.
Stereotyped phrases should be reserved to encourage communication, and if something does not like children, should not make a strong drama, the only thing that will be achieved is that the child does not want to share more things. For trust it is important to understand.
How do you make children see that something is not right, without feeling an attack on them?
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There must be negotiable things and others that do not, and there are things that appear for the first time in adolescence, for example, rebellious behavior, the revolution of hormones, the child who is already in adolescence does not know how to face it.
When something happens, it is essential to sit down and talk, remembering:
- The scale of values.
- The importance of being punctual people.
- The importance of warning if there are times when some control escapes, and parents should be notified.
You must always allow reasoning with the child, explaining the consequences of the misconduct.
Can a child be forced to change the friendships they have?
It is absolutely negative, you can not force them to change friends because if the child wants to have that friendship, they will simply do it secretly.
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Everything that comes in an imposed and authoritarian way will be something that even reinforces the child to continue. It is necessary to have patience, because by imposing you do not get more power.
Patience is conditioned by:
- To reason.
- To argue.
- Unconditional support.
How do we make children aware of bad friendships?
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For children not having a group of friends is a reason to have low self-esteem. But to have friends it is necessary to let them know that not everything is good in friendships.
- Always keep the respect.
- Being friends, does not mean that they have to criticize, or insult, or humiliate, they must pay respect.
- You can not speak badly about other people. You can not speak badly about who is not present, and you have to have personality to express that to a friend.
- Secrets can not be discussed with other people.
Friends become a true pillar, being a backbone that go in the same direction.
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