Introduction.

For the reader, adult or young, of the chain of blocks, especially for "Parents and adolescents", of this beautiful community. We present a study of what we have shared about adolescence, with the best intention, that adults know and can understand the new generations in the diversity of wonderful and complex situations, which have to live in the so-called stage. of adolescence. And in the same way, that young people are capable of the same with their elders.

If we ask ourselves: How do the feelings of love between adolescents and their impact on first love surface?

To answer this question, we will have to review some aspects taking into account that, in the periods before adolescence, the sexes segregate voluntarily. School groups are clearly of the same sex. In the classroom, the children sit with the children and the girls do the same. In the game, the boys have their games and the girls have theirs. If a girl seeks the company of children to play, she is criticized for her own sex. In the same way, when a child becomes part of the group of girls, he is the victim of insults and ridicule.

However, with the advent of puberty the scene changes completely. The physiological alterations provoke the awakening of the affectivity. The desire for the company of the opposite sex increases. The mixed experience in adolescence is perceived as one of the most pleasurable of the stage.

The intensity of the attraction is such that it is natural to go through the experience of falling in love. Young people fall more easily in love during adolescence. Actually, it is clear evidence that one is on the path to affective maturity. A simple look, or a smile that is perceived as special, can be the trigger of the affective experience, which can lead, after a certain time of relationship, to mutual love.

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What does the first love in adolescence mean?

We can say that the first love in adolescence is a very intense emotional experience: those who had sworn "eternal hatred" now promise to love each other forever. The experience of falling in love can affect the studies and the family relationship of the lovers. Being the first intense experience of feeling of mutual attraction, it is not strange to see cases of couples who spend practically all their energy and time to be together, talk about their things and make plans for the future.

After the first romantic moments of the relationship have passed, a crisis usually occurs in the couple, which may end in a more advanced and stable verification, or in the breakup.

If the relationship continues, you can achieve a stability and even a lasting commitment embodied in the marriage. Otherwise, it will end up fading. After the breakdown of relationships, stakeholders experience a more or less prolonged period of picological turbulence. The bond of union has been broken, and now there is the memory of having shared with him or his intimate secrets and of having expressed very personal feelings.

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Consequences of the breakdown of the first love in adolescence.

The consequences of this rupture can be diverse:

* I forget

It is always unpleasant to break relationships of a sentimental nature, but time is responsible for erasing the past, or at least eliminating feelings of dissatisfaction. This is the path that most teen relationships take, reaching a cure in just one week.

* strong rejection

The intense rejection towards the other person, or even hatred, is also a fairly frequent reaction. "He / she has discovered my intimacies, and now there is no link between us." "He does not respect me, now he will talk about everything with people ..."
These are common thoughts of the adolescent who rejects his former partner.

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* Inhibition

It is a less common experience, but highly dangerous. According to studies, it tends to occur after a series of relationships that have ended in rupture, especially if there were expectations of stability and the relationship did not continue.
A member of the couple feels so disappointed that he fears establishing a new relationship due to the pain that the previous ones have produced. This attitude can be prolonged for a long time. In fact, many single people remain in this state due to disappointments received in previous relationships.

* Fixation

In the fixation, one of the members of the couple remains unconditionally in love with the other after the break. In this way, it continues to maintain a symbolic and utopian relationship, harboring hopes for restoration. Fixation involves the same danger as inhibition. Both constitute a strong barrier to the establishment of new relationships.

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What is the best attitude of parents to the infatuation of their children?

What an interesting question, for all of us, the parents of the block chain. Let me tell you that, in the first place, it is to understand that the emotional awakening and the strong attraction towards the opposite sex is something totally normal.

Second, your type of influence should not be censorship and criticism for reasons of who the friend or friend in question is. It is natural for parents to believe that the person is not suitable for their daughter or son. Probably, the parents of the other party think the same. In the event that parents want to give advice based on the objective drawbacks of that relationship, they should do so from the perspective of the lover or who is in a very intense emotional state.

In spite of everything, it is very probable that the adolescent does not listen to the recommendation of the parents; in the same way that it is very likely that the relationship vanishes on its own.

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