Do you have a child ?: These rules are for you.

On the one hand, parents must allow their children to be independent and, on the other hand, they must listen to their needs. Any relationship of trust is based on this.

SourceA son is happiness for any father and mother. After all, everyone wants to give the world a brave man who can be happy and make others happy.

Of course, all children are beautiful and priceless. Parents love them in the same way, regardless of whether they are boys or girls. However, these are future men and women, and their growth will depend on many aspects of us.

If you have a child, you should take note of some special aspects of your education.

Remember that children are not small "copies" of mothers or fathers, they have their own independent voice and character. The task of the parents is to direct them, to teach them to be responsible, mature and happy.

In this article we want to share with you a series of interesting thoughts on how to raise children.

The son is a real challenge.

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There were times when children dressed only in blue and played with cars, a long time ago. We want to remind you once again that psychologists and specialists recommend raising children in the same way. Do not give in to the stereotypes associated with the child's sex.

In general, the advice we share is applicable to the education of any child. However, these basic rules will help you navigate the difficult questions that arise as your child matures.

"My son must be the strongest, the smartest and the bravest"

SourceForget this phrase, better teach him to be himself. The desire to adapt the child to the norm is an error that many families often make when they fall into the trap of obsolete gender stereotypes.

• Some parents want their child to play football better, be stronger than everyone in school or smarter than everyone else in the class. This is not normal.
• May your sons and daughters be what they want. Give them the opportunity to choose what they want to do. Otherwise, they will never learn to realize their dreams when they become adults.
• For example, you should not force your child to swim or play soccer if you really want to dance or play chess.

Listen to your child more often and do not force him to be his "enhanced" copy.

Of course, it is possible and necessary to show him what you like, learn something new, but never force him to do what he does not like.

Children also have the right to cry

SourceChildren are not stronger than girls, they are not invulnerable. Another common mistake that many parents make, he often tells his son: "Do not cry, you are a man! You have to be strong, only the girls cry."

Children, like girls, should be able to express their emotions; let your child cry if he needs it.

It is also very important to provide a strong emotional connection between you. Try to have your relationship based on trust from the beginning.
Never laugh at what he says, about his ideas, thoughts, emotions and hobbies. For him it is very important. If you constantly criticize and make fun of him, he will not want to trust you anymore.

Children need their own space from an early age.

SourceChildren from an early age fluctuate between affection for their parents and the desire to be alone to get an idea of independent living.

• You need to have patience, prudence and the ability to anticipate the situation. Children react very violently to any prohibition, so it is very important to explain calmly why they can not do specific things.
• If the child requires his own space and certain rights, explain that the rights are always grouped into duties.
• That is why it is important to entrust children to do certain things from a very early age.

Let the child clean your room or help you around the house. Take care of pets and their own things: these are the most basic skills you can master.

Having a child is happiness. Learn to understand their needs, establish an emotional connection with them and, most importantly, teach them to trust you, their parents.

Respect their character, learn to be independent and mature, to fight for their dreams. To walk without fear, your child should know that parents will always be on their side and support them in any situation.

Reference

1. https://www.asisoymujermagazine.com/2017/04/24/el-secreto-para-criar-a-ninos-independientes-por-maria-montessori/
2. https://gestionandohijos.com/si-quieres-que-tu-hijo-crezca-independiente-no-cometas-estos-errores/

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