Whatever you do, it will not be enough for others!

guada1 (59)in #edu-venezuela • 5 years ago

Sometimes, everything you do is not enough for the people around you. Either this is not "very good" or "not completely satisfied". But you know what? You do not have to worry! You must do what you think is necessary.

SourceFor many people, everything we do turns out to be "not good enough" or even completely "bad". They make us feel like losers. And I must say that such situations are very destructive, they destroy us from the inside, especially if we are talking about loved ones, relatives or companions.

But such behavior on the part of others has a very specific objective: to remain in their power and subordinate us to strict patterns of behavior, forcing them to adopt their values.

And believe it or not, but this type of relationship is very common nowadays. Whoever is asked, there will always be a relative, friend or colleague, to whom everything, whatever we do and say what we say, everything will be wrong. For them, always and in everything we make mistakes.

But we should not put our lives in dependence on how others react to our actions. It is important to be saved as soon as possible from such unnecessary suffering.

In practice, very few have qualities such as emotional openness, active listening or reciprocity.

The fact is that all people are very different and complex, and with the word "respect" everyone understands something of their own.

We must bear in mind that the human person and the human being are innumerable dimensions. There are several factors by which people can respond inappropriately to the actions of loved ones.

- Fears Very often,

Sourcepeople choose so-called "limiting relationships" when people want to completely control others so they do not lose them. That is, fear makes us humiliate others to gain power over them. This helps to affirm in some way, but once again confirms our low self-esteem.

- the upbringing and education.

SourceThis is a fundamental aspect. If we were deprived of healthy connections with other people in childhood, we lacked confidence in our relatives and no one showed us what mutual respect means, then, most likely, we just do not have adequate strategies regarding personal and emotional behavior.

- Our personal interests Our aspirations are often selfish.

SourceHere it does not matter how they raised us and what they taught us. There are people who seek to control everything that surrounds them and, therefore, force everyone to play alone according to their own rules.

All this clearly explains one simple thing: a person is well suited to use "armor". And nobody will tell you with certainty what is behind this thick shell.

However, the stronger the armor is, the more complex the personality it protects.

And then we'll explain how to protect yourself from the people who do what they do, everything "will not be good enough".

Your priorities are your priorities, not mine.

We are sure that in your life you have already had to experience something like this at least once. When suddenly you realize that your values are not shared by others. Yes, it is not shared, it simply is not taken into account. For example, you decide to be a vegetarian and your family only makes fun of you and your choice.

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Or you come to meet relatives with your new partner and they tell you that "you deserve someone better". And here, before you insult and feel humiliated, try to understand this:

Everyone has their own perspective on things. Only some do not respect the opinions of others and try to impose their opinions in all ways. They believe that their truth is more correct.

But this is wrong. Then, when you find yourself in such situations, think about the following:

We are not satellites that revolve around a certain planet. We are free beings who have the right to live in their own world without losing their self-esteem.
Nobody has the right to impose how we should live and how we should find our personal happiness.

The good thing for me is what makes me happy.

SourceIf what you do or say, makes you happy, then the rest simply does not matter. Each step and choice determines your path. Of all this, and it consists of your life, and it only belongs to you and no one else.

Therefore, consider the following: if people, for some reason, do not accept or criticize their choice, if everything they do "is not good enough" for them, then it is their problem. Therefore, it is very important that you understand yourself and your needs first.
If you live just to please others or to adapt in some way to the expectations of others, your life simply ceases to have any meaning. To build your personal happiness, you need courage, you need to know your value and fight for what you really deserve.

Life is too short to live as others want it.

Of course, none of us is immune to mistakes. We can all do badly, and here the people who love us will help us improve every day. However, those who correct us day after day, punish us, humiliate us, ridicule us, etc., do not help, but they oppress us, they destroy us as people.

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And if there is such a person by your side (who acts in this way), then you understand that it is unlikely to change in the future. In general, those who are not initially inclined to empathy can not obtain this quality in the future.
It is important to understand a very simple thing: life is too short. Organize priorities correctly. It is you and your personal happiness! And if for someone everything you do is not "good enough", then do not try it anymore, accept it and try to distance yourself from those people.

Posted from my blog with SteemPress : http://guada1.vornix.blog/2019/02/13/whatever-you-do-it-will-not-be-enough-for-others/

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