The role of parents in the formation of the child's self-esteem

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The low self-esteem of the child makes him very vulnerable and sensitive. Such children often fall into uncomfortable situations. It is this trait that causes shyness. Due to low self-esteem, the baby can not defend himself and defend his opinion. Some parents want to raise an obedient child so much that they raise indecisive and notorious children.

SourceIt is difficult for these children to achieve success in life, set goals and go towards them. They think that they can not and do not believe in their own strength. For this to not happen, it is necessary to change the attitude toward the education process. The formation of a child's self-esteem is a very important operation.

TYPES OF SELF-ESTEEM IN CHILDREN.
There are 3 types of self-esteem: normal, high and low.

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Normal

The child is evaluated appropriately and his behavior is expressed in the following:
❖ without fear of trying new things;
❖ can find a solution to the problem by itself, but if it fails, you can ask for help;
❖ recognizes your mistakes and corrects them;
❖ Normal communication between pairs.

High

The child overestimates its importance. The increase in self-esteem is expressed in:
❖ egocentrism;
❖ painful perception of criticism;
❖ call attention in any way;
❖ Aggression in dealing with peers, the desire to humiliate others.

Low self-esteem

it is characterized by:
❖ anxiety and self-doubt;
❖ shyness
❖ distrust of an edge and fear of being deceived;
❖ closeness and sensitivity;
❖ negative mood.

Characteristics of children's self-esteem.

The characteristics of the formation of self-esteem in children depend on age. Therefore, parents should monitor changes in the children behavior.

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• In preschool children, self-esteem is sometimes high. This is due to the fact that children are only learning to evaluate themselves. And under the enthusiastic cries of parents it is difficult to do it properly. If parents find a middle ground between compliments and insults, the self-esteem of their son or daughter will return to normal.
• At the age of primary school, the educational process has an important role in the formation of self-esteem. The baby's environment changes and self-esteem changes with him. Performance is also important. After all, before your work was evaluated, there are now grades, points or asterisks that must be met.
• In high school, children are accustomed to assessing themselves adequately. They grow, they learn to analyze their behavior. But at the same time, there is a risk of low self-esteem. Because the child becomes a teenager and may have trouble communicating with his peers, and his family. Low self-esteem is common. At this time, many events take place: preparation for the exam, first love, entry into adulthood, fear of the future.

HOW TO FORM AN ADEQUATE SELF-ESTEEM

Some parents ask how to increase the child's self-esteem. For this there are some tips. And remember, the self-esteem of a preschooler is not very different from the self-esteem of a teenager. A child of any age must be approached with care and attention.

Source❥ Teach the child to notice the good. For example, play this game with him. At night, ask him to remember the 5 good things that happened during the day. It does not have to be something big. Therefore, the child will notice that in his life there is a place for good events.

❥ Give your child the freedom to choose. If the baby shows independence, he will understand that much of his life depends on himself. Ask him in small things: what to cook for dinner, what movie to see at the movies. But do not confuse freedom of choice and permissiveness. Decisions on the main things must be made by the parents.

❥ Stop swearing. Say correctly that words can be damaged. If you have a conflict with a child, do not blame him and vent anger. You'd better calm down and discuss the problem. Do not use the word "guilty". Replace it with "responsibility". Instead of "you are guilty", say "Any misconduct has consequences, you have to answer for them."

❥ Do not demand more from the child than he can do. It matches the child's age, abilities and wishes. A five-year-old child will not be able to care for a baby, but a teenager will be successful. If the child can not do something because of his age, he will be upset, he will think it is useless. Although in reality you just need to grow and learn a little.

❥ Teach your child to say no. Some adults have a problem because they can not refuse others. They always agree with everyone, because they have a weak will and there is no firm character. To prevent your baby from becoming the same, from childhood, teach him to decide, if necessary, and maintain the limits of personal comfort.

It is necessary to explain to the child that if it is not in accordance with the desire of some people, this does not mean that it is bad. Explain that there is a difference between "keeping the promise" and "constantly agreeing with everyone." A son or daughter must realize that he must first assess the situation, calculate his strength and time, consider the consequences and only then give an answer.

Source of information:

https://www.hola.com/ninos/2016031084335/baja-autoestima-ninos-sintomas/
https://www.mentsalud.com/caracteristicas-de-los-ninos-con-baja-y-alta-autoestima/
https://www.fundacionbotin.org/post-plataforma/como-fomentar-una-sana-autoestima-en-la-infancia.html

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