Compromising - does it feel right?

in #esteem5 years ago (edited)

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My thoughts:

Reflecting on the quote above, one can decide to fulfill short term needs thus compromising because the current situation seemingly demands it. On the other hand, one can decide to have a long term focus to achieve that which one ultimately wants. If a plan is made, although the journey might seem difficult, sticking to it might be the better route. Otherwise achieving the goals will seems farther and farther away. In the end it is all about commitment - "stick to it -ism". :) The following questions can be asked:
What is one giving up while opting for instant gratification? Is compromising worth it in the long run?

Some compromises are come in disguises and are often considered necessities or we convince ourselves that they are someone else convinces us - but are they really? In the fast paced modern world we live in - especially in the West - getting what we want when we want it, seems to be the norm. Instant gratification is a compromise - it is usually the the easy way but it tends to come at a cost.

The Oxford Living Dictionaries defines compromise as:
a. An agreement or settlement of a dispute that is reached by each side making concessions.
b. The expedient acceptance of standards that are lower than is desirable.

For the sake of the quote above, the focus will be on b. only. Here are a few situations where there are often compromises which leads to self-defeat:

  • Plans to be healthy and one continues to eat junk food, a craving is satisfied now.
  • Being in debt. Some people use credit cards without thinking of the future payments however they get what they want to buy now.
  • Being in a relationship where compromises are made by one person but not by both - to not upset the status quo.
  • Following the actions of a friend or a group to not feel left out.
    etc.etc.

Compromises can be very uncomfortable as it is doing something we believe in our heart, to be wrong, but we do it anyway. Each time one compromises it gets easier to do it the next time. Just like a little white lie. They creep up, take over and soon they become a habit.

However, we are masters of our own fate. We are the creators of our lives - so we can make changes. We can stop compromising.

Ultimately, it is worth keeping one's eyes on the proverbial ball in order to obtain what one wants most.

What are your thoughts?

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In my view the ability to compromise is a valuable ability to have in ones arsenal of abilities. However as listed in your examples @momogrow it can often be used in a self defeating fashion.

I would speculate based on The Oxford Living Dictionaries definition that compromise could be described as a form of negotiation. A negotiation with oneself or with others. Compromises - like negotiations can produce negative and positive results.

"Plans to be healthy and one continues to eat junk food, a craving is satisfied now."

This could be a negative compromise as by giving in to a craving one has convinced themselves defeat is only a compromise and in the long term it was self defeating.

However if one had been eating healthy for a month but was suffering distress from pushing them self to hard and neglecting their short term well being, then a compromise could be positive and spare them a sleepless night allowing them to rally the following day and continue to work towards their ambitions efficiently.

To conclude my view:

To compromise successfully on a regular basis is perhaps a skill few of us posses. One must remain ever vigilant that the compromises they make are not ultimately self defeating.

Thanks for giving me a reason to self reflect @momogrow

@the-one-true-dan Aww - you are right - compromise can also be a form of negotiation but based on the quote I focussed on the part of the definition that causes self-defeat.
Thank you - I adjusted my post to mention that as the post is my thoughts based on the quote only.
I am happy that I give you reason to self reflect - I write about these topics based on my current environment and self reflection.

In the situation re. healthy eating if one does not only make plans but has been eating healthily for a period of time like you suggested - then cheating or compromising every so often is actually a good thing indeed.

@the-one-true-dan - thanks for your comment - as a result my post is now clearer and hopefully more understandable for other readers.

It was a pleasure to be able to contribute @momogrow thank you for taking the time to read my lengthy reply :)

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Compromise is a conscious diversion from focus, dreams or goals because of a little gain in the present. Compromise can give satisfaction in the moment but regret always take over after the moment is over. I don't think it's worth it.

@resuscitate You are so right - it is indeed short term gratification. These lesson we learn from a young age if not as we grow older. Hopefully most values are learnt from parents in the formative years.

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