Bad Marriage? III, Contributed By @Olawalium.
…continued… from part 1) and part 2
As a parent, you need to understand that you can’t always control every aspect of your child’s life. If you taught your child right, then you should be able to trust his or her decisions; you should be able to allow them make certain choices without influencing it. You can give advice and voice your concerns so they can have options on what they are to think about but you shouldn’t make life changing decisions for them. You have lived your life and still living it, let them live theirs. They don’t have to recreate your own type of life, let them create their own world too.
Parents want to control every aspect because they want to recreate a certain pattern. I am glad I was blessed with the kind of parents I got. I know many who are not as blessed as this. Who you decide to marry and settle with should be your choice and your choice alone. It is a long term commitment, so you need to be sure you can cope with it before going into it.
Marriage will stretch you to your limit and you have to build more capacity to handle these changes you will overtime get used to. You will see your spouse act in a particular way before marriage and shortly after marriage you will start seeing another aspect of them. You begin to wonder where these changes come from but they had it in them all along, it just came out because time reveals all things. If you want to fully know who someone is, just give them time and the real them will come rushing on to the surface.
You can fool some of the people all the time, all the people some of the time, but you cannot fool all the people all the time. Time will always be a true test for anything you want to be revealed.
This man I was talking about got a new version of his wife, according to him but then these changes has been in the wife ever since but he wasn’t too bothered about it. You need to be sensitive and think things through more with your head than with your heart.
…to be continued…
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Olawalium; (Love’s chemical content, in human form). Take a dose today: doctor’s order.
Parents always look put for things that they have missed out in their. 👎 one is perfect and aevery parents wants their kod to have a better and loving life than they had. In persuit to fulfill theor wishes they forget the happines and choices of their kids. It is the kids who have to bear the responsibility post marriage and need to tackle all the situation. Let them decide what they want in getting their life a happier way
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