Conflict - explanatory models and varieties. Authorization Strategies. /part 4/
Knowing motivation allows it to be changed by highlighting profits or losses; - reaching agreement - the conflict is ended and the two sides must be satisfied with the resolution and determined to respect it. The agreement sets out how countries will behave differently in the future. Still, it should not be forgotten that at the end of each dispute and confrontation, two statements are obligatory for the parties: "sorry, sorry" and "nothing, I'll send you". If this can not be said, the conflict is not allowed.
Typically, a conflict arises when a person is asked to do something that is inconsistent with his or her interests when his or her preferences differ from one another when there is a limited amount of highly desirable resources, differences in attitudes, skills, values. Most people connect conflicts with something very unpleasant and seek to avoid them. Others believe that there should be no conflict in a good relationship. Everyday life, however, shows that human relationships crash not because of conflicts but because of the inability to deal with them. The thesis is that conflicts have an inevitable presence in life. From there they have positives. The positive aspects of the conflicts are that: - they raise the awareness of the problems in the relationship: what is their essence; who is responsible; how it is possible to solve. Since both sexes have different attitudes towards their relationship, this also affects the perception of their relationship.
There are gender-specific behaviors that worry the other partner: gender-induced behavior - adultery, physical and verbal abuse; male behavior irritating women: attempts to intercourse, treating a woman as a inferior, neglecting her opinion, hiding emotions, lack of cases where the man says "I love", macho-behavior, rudeness, teasing, ironization ; feminine behavior, annoying men: sexual rejection, coldness in giving, nagging, mood swings and bumps, excessive engagement with appearance, accessories or children. Both genders quickly respond to hostility and find it harder to regain the good tone; - Parties to conflicts: - Promote change - There are times when it is needed to learn, show a new behavioral strategy; - energize and can increase motivation to deal with problems; - stimulate curiosity and make life more interesting; - help a person better understand what is, what makes him nervous or scared, what is important to him, and what he uses to solve his problems.
Most often, conflicts are associated with something bad, unpleasant. But, according to social psychologists, there are potential benefits from conflicts: - conflicts can raise awareness of the relationship problems that need to be resolved; - conflicts encourage change - in each relationship there are times when things need to change and new behavior or skill must be learned; - the conflict is fueling and reinforcing the motivation to tackle the problems; - conflicts make life much more interesting, engender curiosity and stimulate interest. Conflicts also often take better decisions because they require full consideration;