I 💜 U

Sometimes life isn't fair; It deals us cards we don't want and yet what choice do we have but to play the hand we're dealt whether it's good or bad? No choice is the answer. Right now my wife and are working through some issues; Playing the cards we have been dealt by life and are playing the best game we can all things considered.

My wife's mum has cancer as some of you may know already. She was diagnosed a couple of days after my wife and I returned from Europe in July and it's been a battle since then. She has had an operation and a failed attempt at chemotherapy which almost killed her and is now on a new course of chemotherapy for the next six months. It's unpleasant but it seems she has responded better to this mix than the last lot which caused some major complications culminating in a few lengthy hospital stays.

She has been hospital-bound for many weeks interspersed with short stints living at home with my wife and I as it's been easier for us to look after her in our own home rather than travel back and forth between our place and hers.

She started a new course a couple days ago and seems to be ok so far. My wife is staying at her place this time, keeping an eye on her and will head off to work from there each morning. We had a moment last night though when I was there for dinner. Her mum realised she was losing her hair because of the chemo. She took it well but my wife didn't. There were tears and, as usual, I didn't know what to say. So I said nothing.

My wife lost her father in quite tragic circumstances at the age of eleven. He had cancer and was 33 when he died. As you can expect it has left emotional scars and now she's dealing with it again, albeit as an adult, and I really am at a loss as to how I can be of much help.

I try to take care of things at home as much as I can, and tread lightly where possible however I'm at a loss as to what real help I can be. It's made worse by the fact my wife is quite unwell also and is not responding to her own medication well. Yeah I know, we got dealt a shitty set of cards this round. For sure.

Life goes on though right? I mean there's always someone worse of than ourselves and my wife and I aren't the quitting types. We have always worked through things together, celebrated the good time, confronted the bad and come through standing; A little battered and bruised at times sure, but still standing.

My wife is a massive part of my life and over the last 31 years of being together we have had the best and worst times but we did it all together. I couldn't imagine life without her. We have a big rock ahead of us but we'll face that together too. Last night right before I went to bed I sent her this video link just to let her know I was thinking about her. It's by the husband and wife team of Tim McGraw and Faith Hill, two artists we both like a lot.

She sent back a simple text message which I'll share with you:

I 💜 U

P.s. Fuck you cancer.

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