Can't fit in amongst peers!!!!!!

What you can do
First, identify the type of people you find it most challenging to fit in with.

Age:
I don’t fit in with . . .

peers

older youths

adults

Performance:
I don’t fit in with people who are . . .

athletic

talented

intellectual

Personality:
I don’t fit in with people who are . . .

confident

popular

in a clique

Second, pick the statement that describes your typical reaction to being with the people you identified above.

I pretend to have similar interests or abilities.

I ignore their interests and talk about my own.

I stay quiet and look for the first opportunity to leave.

Third, take the initiative! You can’t always expect people to reach out to you; sometimes you have to reach out to them. (Philippians 2:4) How can you do that?

Look outside your age group. Think about it: Why limit yourself to one age group and then complain that you can’t find friends? That would be like starving to death on a desert island when there are fish swimming all around you!

“My mother encouraged me to try talking with older ones. She said I’d be surprised to learn how much I had in common with them. She was right, and I now have many friends!”—Helena, 20.

Develop conversational skills. The key is to (1) listen, (2) ask questions, and (3) show genuine interest.—James 1:19.
“I try to be a listener rather than a talker. And when I talk, I try not to talk about myself or put others in a negative light.”—Serena, 18.
“If a person wants to talk about something that I’m not familiar with, I’ll ask him to explain things, which will hopefully make him talk to me even more.”—Jared, 21.
“I’m a shy person, so I have to push myself to converse. But to make friends, you have to be friendly. So I’ve started talking.”—Leah, 16.