Some parents have a lot to answer for....
I have written a couple of hundred posts on parenting particularly on my blog called educatingparents.org on wordpress.com. I have up to this stage termed a title exactly like this on. This is because I like to phrase titles and posts in positive ways because I know that there are most parents who do a fantastic job raising children.
Parenting is definitely not easy and I consider that parents benefit from getting titbits and pats on the back for a job well done. But the harsh reality is that a small percentage of people who become parents do not do the right thing by their children. They are the ones who fail to form the essential and necessary emotional attachment with their children. As a result these little ones develop what is called a dysfunctional attachment.
A dysfunctional attachment comes about when a parent does not consistently care or intermittently responds to the child from babyhood. Like for instance, a mother lets a hungry baby cry for a period of time, yells at the baby, fails to change wet nappies regularly and so on. Gentleness, showing love, cuddling, feeding, talking and singing to baby are very important for the emotional, physical, mental and psychological development for all children during childhood.
When a child who has had a neglected or abusive upbringing comes school very unprepared to learn. He or she finds it hard to concentrate, sit still, do the work and comply willing to the rules. Getting along with classmates is fraught with difficulties and issues. Behavioural difficulties are prominent. A child who has had a rough upbringing in a dysfunctional toxic home lacks self worth, self-esteem and confidence. As adults there is a likelihood that there will be ongoing issues with work, relationships and getting on well in society.
Teachers, principals and specialist support professionals work very hard to accommodate these children. It does not matter if they have a mild attachment problem or a major one, learning, socialisation, communication and emotional well being is adversely affected. All the helping adults are sad and upset for these children.
This is why I would say now and then during my professional life - some parents have a lot to answer for! They stuff up children's lives!
Cheers
Have a happy day everyone wherever you happen to be.
howdy @angiemitchell! so it sounds like all parents need to go through alot of training first before they have kids because I know it's a super rough job.
Participating in parenting programs is very helpful for any parent @janton. But, unfortunately the parent who is dysfunctional does not attend these programs. They opt out of parenting when the baby is born. The repercussions are long lasting.
good morning again angiemitchell! yes Ma'am it seems that the people who need help the most usually don't seek it. Over here it is usually a drug addiction that makes the women bad at parenting, does Australia have a bad drug addiction problem? it's really bad here.
True. As a new parent I always give it my all.
Children are so precious - enjoy your little one.
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