There Are Certain Things We Just Can't Control

in #life5 years ago

"I gat this. I am in control. I can handle it
Oh, it's no big deal".

These phrases feel so damn good to say and so also is being in control of situations surrounding us. But well, life doesn't always present situations to us where we can easily say "I gat this".


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The guy or lady always in control is seen as the responsible one and most time to be able to keep up with that appearance, we struggle to be in control of all situations and at all times but there is only so much that we can do.

When we try to be in control even though what life is probably telling you is to slow down and enjoy what it has put in front of you (whether good or bad), we act against our own selves and hurt ourselves in the process. And the struggle to be in control can be really draining.

Yes, there are times that you need to be in control but there are also times when all life wants you to do is slow down and let it do its thing

Nature always try to prove that point to us but we almost never pay attention to it. The wind blows wherever it wishes. The weather changes as it pleases. Seasons come and go, we can't do anything about it. The waves of the ocean rise and fall when they dim fit. We just need to learn to live even within these changes because they are gonna happen.


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Yea, you can stop your wristwatch from working but it won't stop time from moving. The wind vane follows the direction of the wind, not the other way around.

As time changes the " genius" we have sure do try to see ways that we can somehow control some of these things. Well, I am so open to see what these guys bring to the table even though we do end up paying in an even bigger way, I mean really they are only trying to make our lives "better". But I digress...😊😉

That being said, control isn't something we can always have over things or even our lives and we have to learn to accept that when it happens. One moment you can be the master of your life and the next, you have no idea how to go about it or what to do with it.

The thing is, when we try to force control over that which we are supposed to allow to move freely, we do that at our own expense (and that of the people surrounding us)

What you can control, give it your best and what you can't, let it flow. You will have to choose between being at peace or letting yourself go " insane" because what chasing control does is drive you insane.

Life sometimes is about watching things happen while you are at peace with yourself because when you let yourself get obsessed with being in control of every little thing that goes on in your life (or even that of others), you may lose your sanity and we definitely don't want that to happen.


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We don't change the weather, because we simply can't. We learn to cope with it, so when you are faced with situations like these, learn to cope with them. We may lose yourself while trying to control some of these things.

So, we you can't seem to control all that is going on in your life or around you, get in touch with that inner peace and watch life unfold. It's never easy to sit back and watch things happen, really but it's definitely isn't. Impossible. So, let go of the need to control, live your life and watch things fall into place.

Much Love, Audrey

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Yep... I was dealing with this for the past few weeks. fighting the control - and losing! LOL

all it managed to do was wipe me out! but.... at the same time - we need to keep pressing forward :) balance is so important

It was really crazy, right? Yeah, we keep pressing on despite all. We just need to find balance about we can and cannot control...

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The control thing is tough! I hear you, but so much wisdom in this post. Do your best, and let go of the results, because we're not ultimately in control. Such a good reminder.

😊 Thanks for stopping by, Ariel! Sure, we are not ultimately in control, we only have to play our parts...

Yes, there are things we cannot control in our life - mhhhhhhhhh, I truly believe there is nothing that we can really really control in our life ...
Somehow we seem to stick to the pattern of the "illusion" of control to feel better .... maybe .... :) just my thought ....

letting go ... allow it to happen ... peace ... with me personally this is what gives me peace in some situations ...

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I think I do love your thought, being in control most times is just an illusion... We are never fully in control....

Definitely ... sometimes we just want this feeling to be in control, to feel better, to have comfort, to have security, to have a feeling of a kind of order ... but like you said ... just an illusion ....
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Sure sure!!... 😊❤

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Yes! We gotta learn to that some things we can't control and by letting go we can embrace and get the best of the situation. Its like trying to grab water, but if you let it flow smoothly, it soothes the hands

I do love the example you made, it actually made go try it out 🙈( grabbing water and then letting it flow) lol. But really, it is just like that. 😊

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Thank you so much, Thinker! I think I am a part of promo mentors already. But I will send you a message...

It sucks that you cant control everything... but that is what makes us human! We are not robots to simply follow codes or commands. We are stubborn most of the time to follow those.. hahahaha...

Life is not ours to control or to lead which way we want it. It would have been too boring if it was that predictable. That is the beauty of life, we do not know where it will take us. We have to live life and allows it to flow. Letting things be does not mean you are weak. It might also mean you are just being wise.. haha.. am i making some sense.. 🤣😂

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😂 you sure are making sense, Maque... Well, life will do its thing, and we just have to let it sometimes😃

Definitely...there are certain things we cant control. When you see other smiling or laughing even in hard time or difficult situations, it's not that they can control it, it's just that they know how to handle hard times.

Moreso, we cant control nature!

True...😊 Thanks for your insightful feedback...

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