We're all equally misguided by the help of a lie

Hey My J's,

It's me back again for your daily dose of random thoughts for the day is my thoughts around the lies we tell ourselves daily. We've been told that lies are bad and we should always strive to tell the truth, which is an ok blanket rule to follow until you get punched in the faces for being a tattletale, snitches get stitches.

Our lies get better with time

As you grow older, that simple rule starts to get bent and is applied with a little more nuance and finesse. While some will try to walk this tight rope, others seem to slip off entirely, and we get things like compulsive lying or motivations behind your lies.

There is not a person on the planet who lies who doesn't have some sort of excuse/motivation for it that seems so practical and even noble to them, and you cannot tell them otherwise.

We lie to others only after lying to ourselves

When we make the decision to lie to others we give oursleves permission to do so, but how can we give ourselves permision to lie if we value the truth? Well we lie to ourselves first, coming up with all sorts of clever reasons why this proposal is the best way forward. We try to outsmart ourselves and the truth instead of opting for it, it can often be comical the extent at which we are willing to go to avoid the truth.

Why we can live a lie with ease

Now if we can believe lies and lies alter our perception, and our perception is our reality then its natural to see how we can build lives on lies. It's easy to see how we can shape our thoughts, our impressions and our interactions to validate our lies and selectively choose the messaging we want to see.

Lies don't just come from within; they may be passed down in your family, your circle of friends or misinformation you received that fundamentally shaped your way of thinking.

Unfortantely most of us are taught what to think and live our lives on that basis, and we were never taught how to think. To critically analyse the data we get, to remove the obfuscation and bias and see things for what they are, or for the multitude of things it could be.

We often choose to smack a face value on it, decide and move on. Does this sound familiar? What is the lie that you have been living?

Every lie takes as further from the truth

We lie or we withhold information because to us the truth is shit, the truth is not what we feel people want or can handle. We feel lies can be the path of the least resistance but it only serves to complicate the path and convolute the message.

When you have all the facts and all the information you are able to make better decisions so basing decisions on lies can skew the outcome in ways that weren't organic. But as we continue on the path we somehow make the lie real and its as if it is any other brick in the foundation that makes up your decision making.

I feel there are so few truths in this world, so when you find someone willing to be that honest with themselves and with you, some of us are not ready for that kind of raw, real talk.

Have your say

What do you good people of steem think? Do you realise the lies you tell yourself? Do you box yourself in with lies? Do you try to protect yourself with your lies?

Holla at me in the comments! All my commenters I will now refer to as Jessie. Jessie is a good friend of mine, but Jessies got a girl, and I want to make her mine.

So have at it my Jessies! If you don't have something to comment, simply comment "I am a Jessie."

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