You Are Going Through A Process IV, Contributed by @Olawalium
This is a continuation from three earlier posts. You can read them here and here and here.
There are some things you are doing now or going through now that don’t add up. Keep doing them, keep going through them, and with time, you will understand why you needed to go through that.
I have gone through pain, so I understand what happiness means. If you don’t go through certain things, you can’t fully grasp the concepts of some certain things.
Stop beating yourself up about life’s experiences and the things you go through. Be open and understand that it won’t always rain forever, there will still be sunshine. You can’t keep going through all that, without having a head start. You will only be better for it. There are some decisions forced upon you or that you had to make, only after that can you see why they truly happened.
I shared how I was forced to go to University instead of football academy. Trust me, right now I wouldn’t want to have it any other way. It is a process that got me here. In addition to all that we want in life, we still want fulfillment and that is key! I am happy with the people I have met so far. If I had gone another route, I wouldn’t have met them. It is all about understanding. We should always learn to see things differently. You need to see those people I have come across in my younger years, and how those people are now connected with the new set of people I am recently coming across. If I had skipped the process, I would never have this story to tell, or understand how life connects and works.
Let go of the hurt, the anger, the bitterness, the pain, and the guilt. Stop trying so hard to understand why you deserve what you are going through. Yes, no one should deserve it, but you can never ignore the role of processes in life. You have to go through that to get you to the point of being transformed. Be transformed in your mind. View things differently. Processes can never be ignored. Go through them painstakingly and watch how these moments will shape you for better days and experiences to come. You wouldn’t want to have it any other way, but then, you can’t understand this while going through it now.
Understand the place of process and whatever you are passing through, know that it is a process. Hold on, hold out, you will come out refined. Stir up yourself.
Thank you for your time.
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Absolutely, there are some time we are doing something we believe, is actually not palatable and don't actually pay now, but we have to remember that time actually heal with commitment and consistency we will later realized that it is just the process that we have to follow.
Your experience brought back my memories after I just finished secondary since I lost mom when I was still in j.s.s 3. I got an offer where I was staying then to worked as a cleaner, but you know I just accepted the offer, during interview, I was asked questions if I could actually do it because of my age and experience and for the fact that it was an public hospital. I used it as an example because it was there I met someone who actually assist and support me through my years in higher institution, I'm saying this so that we will know whatever we are going through now that seems not be palatable nor add up. it is just the process we had to take and our future is actually guaranteed .
After rain there will always be sunshine, we have to understand that whether we are passing through which might seems hard and tiring we always vanish away and shaped us for the desirable future we ever wanted, remember itvis just a process.
Thanks for sharing your experience, it really got me inspired and actually to move on more in the process.
We have to let go of whatever might seems not palatable now and focus on the future through the process we had to take.
We cannot do away with the process if we are to be more successful and be strong enough to reach our desirable goal in life. Understanding the process is surely a greater tool to our success in life.
Exactly. If we are to reach out desired goal, going through process is vital.
I love it when people relate their personal experiences. It helps a whole lot for practicality sake and it make people learn faster.
I am deeply sorry about your mum. Now you see why you had to go through that route, to meet with someone that would help you achieve your education desires. Every thing in life is so connected and the processes can never be ignored.
Thank you so much for sharing your story, we are all learning and I did from your story. Gracias.
You welcome brother, I learnt this from you since you always share your personal experience so I don't feel shy to narrate my own too
Nothing to be shy about in sharing our stories. They don't define who we are, they rather explain the battles we have won. Thanks a lot brother.
Wow... What a story. You see when we look so much at the closed door, we tend to miss the opportunity of the open doors before us. Thank God for progress. You hit the nail on the head dear.
You always got me inspired with your comment brother, you are absolutely right, thanks for sharing your experience too, I learn on or two things from it. We tend to skip the process and want results which won't actually happen and will never happened.
Exactly, life is in stages and we have to go through them
We can't skip the stage if we are to make it in life through the right channel lol, there are a lot of shortcut, but the faithful one's always prevail and has more desirable reputation and deserve honor since money is actually not all this we ever needed
Thank you for making us to complete the process at last. Smile
I'm sure, their is no one who actually pass through this series that won't have one or two things to pick from it.
Going through process is like going to a gym house, if you don't pass through it or allow it to pass through you by getting yourself involved, you can't have the six packs.
You don't just sit at home or doing nothing and be expecting yourself to come out with six pack. Their is a process to go through, skipping the process leads to missing the rewards.
Steemit for instance, you can't start out and become a whale by just wishing to become one.
Their are posts to make, posts to read, comment to write. So many sacrifices involved.
Even if you buy your way to the top, it is still a process you have completed, everything put together are what you need to attain the ultimate goal which is to become a whale.
Thank you @olawalium for taking us through the process, and @communitycoin for making the process less burdensome for bringing it bit by bit for us to fully understand it.
Thanks a lot for your kind words and I am excited to hear that. Yes, breaking it down makes it easier for people to digest it rather than packing everything there at once and most people shy away from anything that is lengthy, hahahaha they won't read it and will just go to the base. They are skipping a process 😂😂😂 and like you said, I am trying to make going through the process easier for them hahahaha.
Process is very vital and needs to be followed through with joy and patience. Nobody said it would be easy, but it would worth it.
Thanks for your support as always.
Skipping to the base without having the knowledge of what the content is all about resulting in "nice post by you", "I now follow you, please follow me back"... 😂😂😂😂
You always got my back bro.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 you nailed it.
This is beautiful. The whale part got me. Many people get into Steemit all thinking the money is instant and regular, not knowing its a community you have to build and be built.
Life sure has its ups and downs. No good thing sure comes easy. Thanks boss.
Hahaha, that's why you see people backing out so fast, they thought they will be making millions from the first they join the platform, they back out when they got few cents instead of many dollars they see from other people's account. Lol
You can't compare your results with those that have successfully pass through their process, you have to work on how to overcome yours in order to become like them.
Thank you boss of bosses... Smile
Funny brother, you are absolutely correct. I agree with you, the thing is if you can beat them join them, on steemit we really have to learn from one another, there is no ending to learning In any form. When we realized this then we won't have to suffer more, I believe in the words "ask and it shall be given". You can help me complete the clause brother.
Steemit has all the answers to the various pro cesses, there are stage even if you get not to boast yourself, you will still need to learn and keep relationship with people. I believe one's relationship on steemit has the answer If I'm correct.
Relationship is the most difficult and the easiest to build on steemit, in it lies weather you will be successful in the long run or not.
Like you have said, no pain no gain in this life and not until we realized that, that our ways would be smooth and give us a desirable life we ever wanted.
Sure, the fastest and easiest way to get things down is to follow the process that lead to where you are going, if you gain before the pain. Trust me, you are coming back to face the pain which is not always easy after the gain...
Yeh, that resonates with me very much, and something I've been thinking about myself, recently. I've had many 'bad' or 'negative' experiences. But in hindsight, they were either creating space in my life for something new to enter, or were giving me the skills, and/or capacity to be able to deal with more challenging situations down the line.
I believe, we are set a challenges in out life in order of increasing difficulty, and never more than we are capable of handling. It's all about growth, as you say, and acknowledging and being grateful for that process, is a huge part of it, as you allude.
Having a strong mindset helps going through a process easy and that is what you have just demonstrated there. You know going through it will be a win-win situation for you...either something new comes in or you gain valuable lesson for your next phase.
This is good. Well done and thank you.
Thats exactly what tends to happen when you forget the past. When one door closes, there are always numerous does opening for us.
Life is not life when everything's alright all the time but rather a dream.
This is what makes life interesting; the unpredictability, the learnings and processes and that is the only way to grow. Thanks a lot.
Exactly, life isnt a bed of roses
Yes brother!
There are some things we are going through which we may not understand but will be useful later in future
I remember when I first got admission into college, I told my mom this is not the course I choosed so I said I ain't going to school or they just give me the money they wanna spend for the whole year and I start business with it. Imagine an Art student at high school given business course but she insisted I must go! I not because of today but future use and I went to school and luckily before result I am working at an office And I'm been paying huge amount
I never thought this could,sitting down at office
My aim is to finish school and go drop the result to my mom,at least that's what she want. I was at school all because my mates go and I go,my mates read and I read,my mates passed and I passed too not knowing its just gonna be useful today.
As earlier said, there are some decisions forced upon us which we might not understand right now, but with time we will.
Now you can see it was a stage you had to go through. A choice you needed to make and pain you had to go through, to give you a better orientation and develop another character, which is actually needed now. Patience helps processes because you can't go through a process without being patient.
Thanks for sharing your personal experience. I always love it. Thanks a lot
Yeah beating yourself doesn't help (but I don't know way it's like a reflex). Al it does is derail us from the main process of holding steady and doing your best to adapt.
Right now I am trying to get full time into blockchain and crypto but so far no luck. Still trying to do my best and leave the rest be (not as easy as it sounds)
There will always be distractions on the road to success. We should always get rid of past hurts and move on!
You are absolutely right sister, a lot of distractions and set back, we just have to turn them to ladder that we are riding to the future.
Hmmmmmm word! You're just right
Yes, it detail us from the main purpose. When we take the pain to learn what we need to learn and seek for help just to learn, it stands us in good stead later on. You will be fine...go through it.
Thanks a lot for this.
Hello my dear friend Ola @olawalium. It's been a while. Apologies, i was so busy the past months. But remember, even if i am not around, you are in my heart my friend.
Thank you for sharing @communitycoin. May you have a blessed day! ☺☺☺
My chille-d friend. I have really missed you and I totally understand how busy you have been. Been a little busy too and it feels so good to hear from you. How have you been?
Yes, when life comes out tough, we need to be tougher. When a defining moment comes, we should define the moment, or else the moment will define us. We shouldn't pray for less troubles, but greater strength, because only in it can we be better in every aspect of life.
Thank you so much for this. Glad to hear from you my friend.
Hello my dear Ola! It is sooooo refreshing to hear from you again. I am so glad we are connected by heart as real friends. I missed you a lot too.
I see a lot of strenghts and passion in you my dear Ola friend! I have a huge respect in you my friend. Thank you for inspiring a lot of people. You are a gift to all of us.
Remember, i am here always. Thank you so much my dear Ola @olawalium. See you around dear.
Your kind words carved me open and leave me humbled. Thank you so much darling. I missed you too so much and i am glad you are doing fine. How is your side and work?
Reading your message makes me smile. Thank you sweetest heart.
Me too dear friend Ola! You always made me smile. Thank you for being my friend. I am fine, just busy with work but i am doing great. How about you? I hope all is well.
I am glad i do make you smile my dear.
So sorry about your busy schedule, it will get better with time. Work has been good too, God has been so faithful. I am doing great too.
Sure, we really need to believe in ourselves anf believe that at the end of the day, we shall shine forth. @communitycoin has beautiful writers, I must say
Thank you @Olawalium for this
There's always light after the tunnel, glory after the story, crown after carrying the cross.
Yes, there is always light at the end of the tunnel, and it is not from an onrushing train. Hahaha. Once we know it will only make us better, going through the processes helps.
Thanks a lot dear.
Well for one, there is strength that you gain from pain once it has subsided. ‘Feel the pain till it hurts no more.’ hahahaha
Your words are full of encouragement and to motivate us to always sweet the light ahead of us and stop focusing on our present condition. Life is in stages and we must pass through all these stages to make us a better person , what we a passing through now is a way of building us positively for a better and brightful tomorrow @olawalium
Absolutely! .
Thanks a lot for your kind words. I really appreciate you
Thanks for sharing this @olawalium, you are really wonderful
Understanding the positive aspects of experiencing pain can help us do this better. What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.
Whatever you gone through and doesn't kill you will surely makes you stronger.
instead of letting it overwhelm you. Instead of letting pain consumer you and destroy you, you should learn how to let it change you for the better and make you a better person.
Absolutely. Thanks a lot brother.