I Don’t Like People
Nothing personal, and of course I like You.
I say I don't like people, a lot, and nobody believes me. It’s one of the first thing I say when getting to know a new person, so they know that I’m not the girl to go to a music festival with them for the whole weekend, or hang around in a group of friends all day every day. People are draining, and I’m not used to being around them for more than a few hours at a time. Sometimes I get into a social butterfly mode, party and talk to everyone, but I need a few days to recharge after that.
Even though I dislike majority of people, I need them too, even though I don’t want to have anything to do with them.
Here is the thing, I need the weird, awkward, stupid and infuriating interactions for my art. Though I don’t like to call myself an artist, but it’s the only label that suits this purpose. People inspire me, most often without knowing it. I think a lot of them would get mad for me using them in some of my work. It’s often the negatives that I notice and make a mental note on using later. I get a feeling of twisted satisfaction knowing that when I have to deal with a person I don’t like, I can later use the experience for my work and make money out of that. So thank you to all the idiots who have tried to bring me down or make my life harder, you are adding fuel to my fire and giving me power.
Even though I mainly photograph nature and myself, and write about my life, other people give me ideas. Most of the time, I hide where the inspiration comes from, and it’s often a collection of observations and experiences I pack into one. I grab onto little pieces from songs, book titles, a half a sentence and everyday life. I always look, listen and stalk people, in a somewhat nice way.
I just don’t want to come too close, I’d rather observe from afar. People are a lot more interesting if I can observe them from a distance and not get to a too close of a contact. I guess I like a bit of mystery. Most people are really boring once you get to know them a little, and I don’t care for boring.
Every now and then I get into situations and conversation I’d rather not have, but I don’t run away either because I know it will be fuel for my fire later on. I might even do a lot of things knowing that there might be drama later on, but I am quite calculated on those situations. People think I do rash decisions and don’t think how my actions effect the future, when in reality I have already calculated three steps ahead.
I think I could be really good at playing chess.
You know I agree with this point. I must say "people suck" or " I hate people" at least a couple of times per week. I say it to my co-workers. They know it is true too. But people who don't know me, who only know me from casual contact at work, think I am outgoing. I have had lots of practice with people, that's why.
In life, as on steemit, if I like you, you will know. I tend to do things for the people I like. I will go out of my way to help them if they need something. It is just who I am. I just do it because I know they would appreciate it, or they need the support I would provide.
I don't know you @eveuncovered. I would probably bore you in a social setting. I don't talk much, so we would probably not even meet in a live social event. However, I am happy I met you on steemit. We will probably never meet in person, but interacting with you online, I find you interesting and honest. And I will take that.
People have the same misconception about me, and they also think I'm "nice". I'm the same as you, if I like someone, the rare few, I am really nice to them, the rest can go to hell. No, heaven, hell is for me and my friends.
I like people on the internet more, because it's easier to go through and choose the ones you like to be in contact with. It's also easier to limit the contact to a pleasurable level. I bet if we were in a same social event, we'd end up in the same corner of a bar drinking and observing, and then getting into a conversation about people and how weird they are, us included.
Weird is good. To me, that is interesting. I just tolerate others. If we met, I would probably weird you out. I tend to overdo a good thing. People tend to think I want more of them than I do. So, for the sake of our internet friendship, I will stay away. 🤟😍
I'm rather curious, even though it might ruin a good thing. I'm pretty intense so I think we might have that in common too, people thinking we actually want more when we are just curious about the inner working of a person.
Yeah, it is really hard to find likeminded people who are worth to spend your precious time with, especially if you are above average in many ways. On the positive side, people can also be an inspiration, because everybody has a different point of view on things. For instance, your posts inspired me to do "Uncovered" pics of myself on a regular basis now. At the end of the day, we all need other people and are connected to each other somehow.
I'm above average in annoyance and strong opinions 😝 I have noticed a growing trend of uncovering and I'm not mad about that 😝
By your description, you sound rather introverted. Absolutely nothing wrong with that. It doesn't sound to me as if you dislike people as much as you dislike too much social interaction. For you, too much is much less than for the average person let alone a strong extrovert.
My tolerance and preference for social interaction is somewhat higher than that of the average person in this country. My wife is clearly more introverted than myself. For example, she usually dislikes having guests over very much whereas I don't really mind at all. She is particularly loathe to have guests stay overnight.
I am very introverted, but you might be somewhat right about not actually disliking people, but more so the socialising with them. I don't even like to hang out with the closest people all the time, even though I like them.
There are very few people I let into my apartment, I hate having people over. Sometimes I hold afterparties and then it's somewhat alright to have people over, but I make sure to kick them out before the sunrise. Several people have tried to couch surf on my apartment and when I've said no, they try to plea that they don't have any other place, trying to get sympathy, but they underestimate how strict I am about letting people in. So they sleep outside or find another place, I don't care if it's -15 outside, it ain't my problem.
After working in the service industry for half a decade I can say that people definitely suck (a lot of the time). Most of them are selfish, inconsiderate assholes that will gladly accept your help but give none in return.
After spending all day talking to people I usually just want to go home to peace and quiet. It gets to be very mentally exhausting putting up with everyone else's bullshit day in and day out.
Tell me about it, I spend six years in the service industry before becoming a full time Steemian! I actually thought I would become more social after quitting that job, but that hasn't happened yet 😂😅
I like your posts, I think you are an attractive lady. I really don’t know how to make sense of it, but I like people, I love watching people be happy and all of a sudden I am happy too. I wish I was social, and could talk to anybody; but I am so anti social I hate it. I sometimes wish and try so hard not to be the way I am. But hey that’s life, I’ve come to the conclusion that I will always be this way. Love people and not being able to express it. ☺️But I am content.
an interesting look at society, you're an introvert, right? I also do not like going to places where there are a lot of strangers, I feel very bad at the time, I spend most of my time alone at home and I feel good, but if I spend too much time alone, it's bad for me, even a person like me Sometimes I have to have someone to talk to, people are bears, we are not a species of loner, sometimes we have to talk to someone and say something by ourselves, loneliness often leads to mental illness, let's be careful!
my English is weak, I hope you understand what I wrote :).
I understand your English very well, no worries.
I prefer the time alone too, but of course we need human contact too, but just little bit at a time. I love the internet because I can get some human interaction while being comfortably home alone.
true! i think same!
I can really relate to this 100%
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Very good article with picture. You realize many things. Good observation. Thanks for sharing with us. @minnowhale
introversion topic once again? Well I am not sure if I have said this already. I can spend years without talking with some of my friends and classmates. Then we meet and I enjoy being with them. But after a while I still start thinking "I wonder how much longer they are going to stay here. I could be creating/ reading something right now..."
"I think I could be really good at playing chess."
strip chess would be way more fun.😉
I like people. It is not easy to trust. But strength of characters base on truth is way for betterment of our relationship.
Thank you @eveuncovered for this post.
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I like John, Adam and Nick and Christine and Josh and George and Kate etc...
I like them.
Get it?
It’s either a really good joke or a really bad one, but I don’t get it :(
I like you, I like me, I like my friend John, my friend Kate. I hate faceless humanity. I love my dear intimates. I hate humanity, because I love people.
I like to get intimate with people, but only with a few people. It’s not intimate anymore if you have a hundred friends.
Perhaps "intimates" wasn't the right word. Yeah, I mostly agree.