No Means No Even in the Face of Bad Advice.

There's a beautiful young lady at the restaurant where I work.

Blonde bombshell describes her to the T.

She's very friendly, bubbly, outgoing, and eager to get along with everyone.

Everybody likes working with her.

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The guys especially like working with her because they've all got it into their head that they might have a chance at taking her home one day.

One thing about working in the restaurant business is that you learn to work all of the angles. If you've got an extra edge like being beautiful then you've got to use that to your advantage. It means more tip money, but it also means that more people might be eager to get to know you.

Whatever you've got.... you've really got to use it.

Some of the guys enjoy taking Martha out to dinner. She never says no because she likes to be friendly with everyone. Of course, she also enjoys a free meal and everyone seems to throw money at her at every opportunity.

Let's party with Martha!

She's always welcome to come over here!

Whenever Martha is involved, she gets all the beer, food, and whatever else she can devour. Why? Everyone wants to get her in the sack.

Bobby has tried his best to bed her every single day since he started at the restaurant. Despite this, he and Martha actually developed an unusual kind of friendship.

She might go on a date then wind up at Bobby's house to play video games.

If she's feeling down she might go talk to Bobby about what's bothering her while he buys her beer after beer.

Martha has told me time and time again that although she enjoys hanging out with Bobby, she really hates his general attitude about life. He's a total slacker. She also finds him absolutely repulsive in the looks department.

Bobby is a frat boy type. Joe six pack. He's always up for a good time, but he's not so fun to work with.

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There have been a handful of times when Martha mentioned to me that Bobby got a little inappropriate with her while they were intoxicated.

One time they were playing video games and he told her "If you win I will buy you a nice dinner tomorrow, but if I win you have to let me kiss you all over your neck."

She told him to cut that crap out just like she always does.

I've noticed Bobby's mentors come in and talk to him once in awhile. They are a bunch of frat boy alumni. Adults that have already been through this phase of life.

Sometimes people will tell you something like....

"You've just got to keep swinging until you hit the ball."

or

"If you really like a girl you should never give up on trying to be with her."

I've heard Bobby's mentors coach him multiple times on this very subject. Try, try again. He gets his hopes up and then they get dashed again and again.

"I just want to be friends." she tells him. He seems to be OK with that, until the next time.

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The last incident was too much for Martha.

Having nothing to do that evening, she and Bobby went out to have a nice dinner together. Of course Bobby paid. He always pays because he's trying to get into her pants. However, she just wants to be friends as she has stated multiple times. She still expects him to pay for everything though.

I can just imagine the voice of his mentor in his head telling him not to give up on his dream of being with her.

They picked up a bunch of alcohol and went back to Bobby's place where they played video games, which is what they normally do.

At some point Bobby got kind of grabby with her, and then took off his pants. He was clearly drunk. Dancing around in his boxer shorts, he told her to relax as he caressed her neck.

Taking it to the next level?

Martha didn't want to go to that level.

Needless to say there was some pushing, some attempted kissing, and what could essentially be considered aggressive behavior bordering on something illegal.

Unprovoked? No means no, under any circumstance.

Martha called some friends to come pick her up. She no longer spends time with Bobby. When they work together it is a very uncomfortable situation for everyone around them.

It's not always the best idea to hang out with people that you work with. However, if you do you need to be honest and true about who you are and what you want from them.

Martha should never have used Bobby. She should never have taken money from him, not for food or anything else.

However, Bobby should have realized that he was friend zoned right away and that it is impossible to get off that lonely island, no matter how much you try.

The thing that made it particularly difficult for him was the advice he was getting from his mentors. Of course they're going to tell you to try, try again.... but if you try too hard you're going to find yourself in a terribly bad spot. A better piece of advice would have been read the situation and react accordingly.

Of course, that's pretty hard to do when you're intoxicated anyway.

I think Bobby and Martha both learned an interesting lesson.

They'll both get over it, and each other, in time.

When you're young there are plenty of lessons to be learned, but this one is pretty important.

No means no even in the face of bad advice.