When someone betrays you, is pure the reflection of their character, not yours!

in #life6 years ago (edited)

In life, you never lose friends but learn who is really a friend.

Yes, we suffer when we lose a friend ... but really it was a friend or just was a nice start and then they changed?

Well it's hard to change, after hours of counseling for personal development you can change something in a far better than you were, but in every day life you see the first mask of a person, the second is not the "changed mask" but how he really is.


We find it difficult to open in the first phase they do not want to hurt or disappoint you, but when it does what only matter is just the power to overcome this disappointment.

It is a funny expression "I hate those two faces / masks, is so hard for me to decide who to slap first!" - Just the idea explained above.

We have two faces, we have two temperaments, one shown between friends and family and one among strangers. Can be a large discrepancy between the two and some time to observe only one, the beautiful and empathetic, the good with great kindness and altruism.

You must not be afraid to start a friendship, just how life is made of ups and downs so is a relationship of any kind. Your attitude to what happens during the friendly relations matters and is valued; how and if you can overcome some difficult moments and disappointing and so on.

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Feel that you "have existed for friends only when they needed you?" Well, it may be very true, but do you think is your fault? Not so, each are educated and built in a way, do not blame yourself for their way of being. "If they do not talk to you, they talk about you behind your back"; There are people who do this and you can say it is meanly but, their character, their education is like this, "the moth of the world you can not stop".

We grow, we develop, we mature, become knowledgeable friends, get some people that we see once a while because of work, family, existential problems you handle long.

There are also those people very jealous when you meet someone new and you start a relationship of love, I think all we have experienced it... well, those people are "needy", these would be those people who would be intrusive in your life and should know everything and how it happens or else would feel violated and would think it is not right to be any other way.

Your life is changing, as well as friends that come and go in different circles ... "friendship" is relative, some can really understand what it means when the others just say "best friend" but so it can say about the neighbor they see once a month.

Perspective defines the action itself.
The hardest is when you realize that you believed in the friendship, that you gave everything to be there and help, but when you needed something, that person was occupied ... as my mother said some time ago "mother, friends are friends, you choose them, the family you do not choose but learn to accept as it is".
Here is about respect, as long as it is gone and you stopped showing it you will disappoint whether you want or not . We learn to respect our family members, we should do so with friends, to give them breathing space, and respect the election, not to judge and to know when is the time to lay aside.
We do not receive a map or rules with how we should behave in a relationship of friendship, here comes the self-education.
I learned to share and not remain indifferent to help ... what do you think about this?
Unfortunately some friendships come to an end in a manner so bad that nothing can repair because they they passed the last limit of respect.
It is strange how some people want to get out of our lives, right?
With drums and whistles output to remark that they said the last word.
Remember only this: when someone betrays you, is pure the reflection of their character, not yours!


Posted from my blog with SteemPress : http://laviniaterapeut.org/uncategorized/when-someone-betrays-you-is-pure-the-reflection-of-their-character-not-yours/

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Thank you Lavinia....:)! It went really great with my state! Please keep writting about this subject! Sending you lots of love and blessings to you and your family!

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