Better Together
Better Together
One of the biggest challenges for matured single and unmarried people is how to know who the right person is when choosing a spouse. In recent times, marriage has become almost synonymous to a swimming pool; people jump in one minute and jump out at the slightest bit of negative pressure shortly after. Those of us who have chosen to remain married are only able to do so because of the five principles I would mention below.
- The principle of conviction - Conviction is never in a vacuum. You must have a word of God that you have built your conviction on. You must know what God has said about your life. Conviction is the only reason people don't walk away from their marriages regardless of unpalatable realities. They have a firm belief that they are with the right person and as long as the realities are not life threatening, things would change for the better eventually.
- The principle of commitment - Commitment involves making a decision openly and decisively such that it would be difficult to change your mind as you would be held accountable for it. It is commitment that makes it you to be completely loyal to one person. If you don't have a desire to spoil your partner with giving and invest in them then you do not truly love them; where your treasure is, your heart will also be. Be a true steward and take care of your spouse/partner.
- Complementary - Select a partner who compliments your vision. He or she may not be like you however you must share the same principles and possess the ability to synergise both your dreams and goals. Two cannot possible walk or work together except they agree.
- Compatibility - You need a mate who can help you and who is suitable. Both criteria must be present. A potential partner can be helpful but not suitable. It is the purpose of that person that determines their suitability. Pizza and Coca-Cola are very suitable, they go perfectly together. Custard and Coca-cola on the other hand are not. Be wise when choosing your partner.
- Dealing with conflicts - Conflicts are a given in every relationship. Major conflicts that affect marriages are money, sex and disagreements. You must have continuous conversations aimed at resolving conflicts because you are different. Always approach such conflict resolution conversations from the perspective that your partner loves you and would not deliberately set out to hurt you. Issues are easier to resolve when both parties are committed to one another.
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Great post @mosunomotunde...
A wise man said go for a partner who is suitable and not just compatible.
The rate of divorces nowadays is alarming even in christiandom today. Thanks for sharing ..
Thanks a lot for this lovely contribution! Cheers
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