12 Rules For Life

1. Stand Up Straight With Your Shoulders Back

• Lobster Neuro Chemistry - Serotonin Governs Status...just like in human beings.

• Your posture determines your well being...influences your serotonin levels..can monitor your dominance with serotonin...this means the 'dominance hierarchy is a matter of posturing..."

• Determines negative emotions to positive feeling...changes the way entire system responds to the world....

• Correlation between your dominance systems and your posturing....

• Prone to defened beleifs....sensitive to neuro chemical positioning...hierarchy positioning...

• Part of brain that recognizes hierarchies is old.....

• How do you want your society to be structured? Smart hard working people succeed?

2. Treat Yourself Like Your Someone That You Care About

• Meditation on treat your neighbor how you would like to be treated

• Invitation to Reciprocity

• You have to figure out how you want to be treated.

• It's not about just wanting everyone to be nice..

• Often is the case that people will treat people better than they will treat themselves...which is also not good...Need to learn how to best care for ourselves..

• why people don't like themselves very much...fragile...self-conscious...foolishness....errors..

• Harshness...Malevelance ...knowing your weaknesses....'universal problem'....'love the sinner but hate the sin'

• Take on the attitude for yourself that you would give to someone else that you care about - moral obligation.

• you have something valuable to bring into the world - you are in the best position to do so

• reasons do not justify mistreatment of yourself.

3. Make friends with People who want the Best For You.

• Ethical responsibility to surround yourself with the best people.

• Might not be your family...

• Be careful with who you share good and bad news with...

4. Compare Yourself to Who You Were Yesterday...Not someone Else Today

• Pareto Principle

• Those that have more will get more

• Always people that are 'Better'

• You Need an "ideal" but an "Ideal" is a "judge"...Catch 20/20...You need a goal...but differentiate it down into steps with reasonable probability with success.

• You need to stop comparing yourself to others...no one else is exactly like you...you don't know the details of anyone elses life.

• Aim High - Use You as Your control...Compare to your past...Be incremental in Your self-Improvement...Compound Your Best Interests.

• "He who has a "why" can bare almost any how.

• Just be a little bit better than previous miserable self...

5. Do Not Let Your Children Do Anything that will make you Dislike Them

• The idea that parents cannot dislike their children.... these are the pople who produce the most monstrous children...

• The dark side of humanities roots reach all the way to hell

• If you understand your darkside - you will understand all injustices in the world.

• Give Appreciation - Share those observations - Encouragement

• Know your own montrosity

• You're going to be around your children a lot...so take care to prevent your reactions..

• Consult your own irritability - let them know when your not in the best of moods...

• Fundamental job as a parent - make child eminently desirable socially...great play mate....child knows how to play

• A child knowing how to play is a real deep knowledge and life skill. A well socialized kid will always be rich.

• Kids bring out the best in everyone if you care well for your children

6. Colombine Kids - Understanding Horrific Tragedy of Kids

• Listen to your resentment

• Have to learn about the uncomfortable things of yourself.

• Resentment can be a great teacher of self-reflection...

• Resentful people are not to be trusted....How do you treat your own resentment...

• Blame is Lame - Maybe shouldn't be judging if haven't done everything possible to correct the siutation

• Ask yourself, "how did I get here?"....take responsibility for your life with a fine tooth comb..."when did I go wrong?"

• What would happen if I took responsibility for all my past miss takes?

• Straighten yoursel out by not doing the things you know you shouldn't do. Try it out...see how things go. Give yourself some time. Test it out for a year...

7. Do What is Meaningful, Not what is Expedient

• Idea that christ died for your sins...psychological idea....Associated the idea with the 'shadow'

8. To stop being a Nazi - know that the Nazi is you

• self note - recognize the darkness within you

9. Assume the person you are listening to knows some that you don't (What you don't know is much more important than what you do)

• If you listen you learn everything almost unexpectedly so.

• Meaningful conversations you are engrossed within - Transformative.

• Just listen to people

• Listening - it's a very good thing.

• Test your listening by asking the person if you got it right....in this way you summarize the points/arguments of your partner/friend...encouraged understanding and a real depth of intimacy..

• The summary with listening isn't about winning...it's more of a fixing...fine tuning...

10. Don't bother children when they are skateboarding - Masculinity

• We seem to have concluded that strong men are dangerous...bad atttiudes towards young men...

• Historically ignorant...

11. Call to encouragement - Take Responsibly

• Responsibility is so much so our Response Ability.

• Make a Play

• Play Often - It's your best Move

12. Pet a Cat when you encounter one on the street

• Notice the unexpected beauty life

• You will be faced with crisis - cut timeframe down to moment to moment management

• If you face things - you can put up with a lot more than you think you can

• You have to be alert when you're sufffering - see the unexpected beauty in life...

• See the little bit of crystal within the darkness

• Be grateful for what you have...can really help you get through some very dark times....can make it tragic and not hell...there's a huge difference.

• If we didn't make terrible things worse...than maybe we could tolerate the bad things that happen