Last night we talked about Grief. There were noises in the background, but it subsided to almost silent during the conversation. We pondered about grief; why the feeling is heavy and why sometimes we grief over someone who is not even in our inner circle.
At that moment, I realised we have the same grief. I lost a friend in December 2016 and I grief till today. The grief is small and sometimes subtle. I know it's a grief because I would stare deep into my inner space and try to fill the emptiness. Most of the time, the mind is occupied by self-guilt, but space remain empty.
I love taking photos of empty chairs. It gives me the sense of space; the same space I'm staring into. Imagine those people who sat on these chairs during the day and they left during the night. If this is how death looks like, what are we missing here?
During the conversation, this came out right from my lips. "What we miss is their presence (physical) and now it just an empty space". We don't connect much with Souls. We are a physical creature. Physical presence, the body itself make so much difference in this world. That's what we missed. The rest come and go together with the body including the expression of love, the voice, the touch, everything about the body.
That's the most torturing feeling about grief'; longing for the body to be around. However, if we take grief with a touch of Spirituality, we would understand that Space is never Empty. The presence is always there. The essence of the energy body is right there. It's just they appeared in a different form.
Whenever I see empty chairs, I feel a deep sense of Peace and I would capture the moments through the lens. It's okay to grieve. I no longer shed tears over her passing. I don't think I even have tears to grieve. All I do is accepting the space I feel whenever I think of her.
That space is Love. I wish her Peace, wherever she is now.
Thank you for reading, I hope this can shed some lights on your journey!
Blessing to you all.
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A spouse is a terrible thing to lose, and I have been through that. It is NOT just a physical phenomenon, missing their physical presence. When my husband died a few years ago, I lost not only his physical companionship, but also I lost my best friend, my spiritual partner, the one who could always calm me during times of stress, the one who could always make me feel at-ease when no one else could. We harmonized on emotional levels, intellectual levels, and spiritual levels, as well as the physical. This was the most all-encompassing loss I have ever experienced, with hardly an area of my heart and soul left untouched in some way.
That being said, I extend condolences to you in the loss you mentioned in this post, and I am glad that you feel a sense of peace now. Healing can be a long process, and I am glad you found an outlet for your feelings. Blessings to you. 💙
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Agree that we are people that need physical contact and have physical memory. However, if we can elevate ourselves into self actualization and touch the memory through a higher dimension, spiritual. Perhaps it could make us have better take on grief. Cheers!
Thank you @kimzwarch :). I never do that. From all the griefs I had, it all ended up in the sense of inner peace. It just a matter of time. Have you done it?
So far so good 😂 my way of ‘meditate’ is through writing, exercising and some heart to heart chat with close family, friends. Rather than looking back, I choose to look ahead and move forward :)
That's good to know :) Meditation is good and I do the same. I learned that my energy design makes me move forward and also looking into the past to reflect the cycle and learn something from it. So much I have learned from the grief. And as long we don't ignore it, the grief can be tremendous momentum for our awakening.
True, acknowledge about it but not haunted by it :) it’s ok to feel sad and grief for a little while.
That's true!
This is so sad and beautiful at the same time. I don't think we ever truly get over it and there will always be a part of us that misses them immensely. I love the story behind the empty chair and now I will think about it in the same way.
Thank you @jusipassetti for the feedback. I believe the same. For me, to be able to reflect on the memory that we have with them with a sense of inner peace; that is acceptance. Or in other word; making peace with the grief :)
I don't know if anyone deals with grief in the same way. So much depends on our own beliefs, but you found a way to process it and that's what is important. I don't think anyone I ever loved and loved me back wants me grieving too long over their passing.
I love the way you shared your thoughts on it. Thank you. I agree that no souls want us to grief for a long time. I believe in cycle of energy. Maybe there is something that I need to learn and share the lesson. Let see what comes out :)
Really agree with this. Even though we cannot really feel the presence, but yes i do agree it is always be there just like you said its only appeared in different form.
Thank you for sharing this great article.
@bboyady beautiful insight.. Thank you for reading the post and share your thoughts :)
i think about this a lot, whenever i get morbid and imagine my parents or grandparents passing, or my own mortality. Even though I don't see them every day, the thought of them just no longer being there to reach is the scariest part. Same when i was going through my break up. The thought of no longer having the option of seeing that person was the worst bit.
@corinneiskorean I feel you on this. The feeling of attachment is a form of suffering. Then again we are human. When we bonding, we attach. Ah! So much to learn. Thanks for your sharing. ♡
That's an interesting way of looking at it. It is tough to move on with a death especially if that someone or something was really close to you and played a big role in your daily living and routine. Being able to separate the fact that the physical may no longer be around but that of the spiritual still remain might be a point of view that could help.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts!
@branlee87 I agree. Nine years ago I processed grief differently. Nowadays, I always remind myself to connect with the spirituality. It helps. The grief is part of the life, it just need acknowledgement. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
As I am getting older I have been wondering more about coping with losing loved ones, I simply can't wrap my head around the "they were here but now they are not" concept. And like you said, it's this missing presence that we grieve, until we realise that the eseence of that presence will always take up a space.
I feel the same @sweetpea. What I realised is how much our physical body and its essence show up in this world and it does make difference in balancing the Life. And when the body is gone, it leaves a space. Something we cannot replace but to find our way through grieving the loss.
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