Adult Problems That Nobody Prepares Us For (Part I)

in #life6 years ago

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When we grow up, we look up to adults with a sense of awe, appreciation and trust. We often wonder at how adults know exactly what they are doing, how they have got it all under control and how they always make sure that things ultimately work out just as they we were supposed to.

Basically we wonder how great it must be to be an adult. But as it turns out, there are a lot of unexpected and sometimes unpleasant discoveries that come with adulthood and most of the time adults are just as clueless as kids and teenagers are.

While schools and colleges prepare us for a lot of stuff, there are aspects of adulthood that we are never prepared for until we get there. And when we do get there, sometimes we are able to handle them while sometimes it is too late.

Preparing for an adult life can be tough, as the gap between childhood and adulthood is often bridged without us even realizing it. There are certain grim realities of adult life and certain problems that we are never ready for. This series of posts is about such adult problems that nobody prepares us for.

Not Seeing Our Parents Often

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One of the saddest things about adult life in this modern age is having to live away from our parents because of working/professional life. Not everyone comes from big cities that provide most of the jobs and therefore many have to migrate from villages and towns to these cities.

Over time we settle down in our new lives, get married and start our own families in the place of our livelihoods and we kind of get permanently physically detached from our parents because of having to live away from them.

Our only physical attachment with them then becomes the visits we pay to them or the visits they pay to us. And during each of these visits, we face an aspect of adult life that nobody prepares us for - noticing and realizing that our parents have gotten older.

No matter how busy and involved we get in our working lives, our parents always mean the world to us but, sadly, time passes as though it is a blur.

Realizing That Keeping Friends And Making New Ones Is Hard

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When we step into adulthood, no one warns us about how quickly we and our school & college friends drift apart and move on with our individual lives. And when we realize it happening, it makes us feel awful.

As kids and teenagers growing up, we spend most of our time in the company of our friends whether in classes or outside, doing all sorts of activities like playing sports and games, shopping, eating out, going to the movies, exercising, travelling etc.

Our circle of friends basically become our second family and we can barely think of a life without them. But then adulthood arrives and gives us a hard awakening and our circle of friends slowly shrinks over time like how winds erode sand castles.

And before we realize it, we barely see each other anymore. Though everyone misses each other, nobody has the time. And even when we see our friends, what we usually talk about is the 'good old days' and that nostalgia just makes us all sad and helpless.

Having To Figure Out Things To Do And Then Bringing Ourselves To Do It

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Growing up, we get tired of getting told what to do and we long for autonomy and can't wait to grow up and become an adult. We are often told that when we become adults, we can do whatever we want to and that always sounds very exciting.

But only when we actually step into adulthood, we realize that the autonomy that we had always dreamt of having, comes with a price. While most adults generally figure out what to do in their lives and that includes almost everything, not just figuring out one's livelihood, sometimes it becomes too overwhelming.

Then we begin to wish that there was someone who would tell us what to do and guide us and maybe take some responsibility off of us - basically the exact same thing we hated growing up is what we begin wishing for irrespective of how embarrassing it may sound and feel.

And even if we figure out things to do, sometimes it become too difficult a task to bring ourselves to actually do it because an aspect of adulthood is dearth of time.

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It's never easy to be an adult .With adulthood comes responsibility . It often I think of my school days . Where each day the only concern was doing homework and studying occasionally. Most of the day one would enjoy goofing around with friends. At the end of the day one would come home to a warm meal ,electricity,water and a comfy bad. All this paid for .

As an adult comes responsibility Or at least for the majority of us. Now you become the provider for warm meal ,electricity,water and a comfy bad. That's life I suppose.

Yeah, I agree totally with you. One transforms from enjoyer of comforts to a provider of said comforts and that takes effort.

Very interesting article. Again.

I belive that many of us don't think about adulthood this way, or any other way. Everybody just live their lives. So am I.
I must say, I am the one who is living busy life and I visited my parents last Christmas. Shame on me..But we are talking very often on the phone. Not a good excuse, I know.

I feel good with my "adult's family". I think I know him very well, but still he surprises me sometimes. He is my partner ( in crime - ok, it is a joke), my good friend, teacher etc.

Fortunately, I have my best friend since 7th grade, so it's like 20+ years. We work together, we are writing to each other on e-mail every single day and we are calling every evening. There is so much to talk about. Always. She is like my family. Making new friends is not necessary anymore. I am happy with what I have.
But i must admit that it is not always easy to be adult...

Yeah, staying in touch with old friends is very vital and you are lucky that you get to do so. I miss my school days and the friends I had during that phase of my life.

yes dear life is dividing into different phases and childhood is the best part of life,when we have more dreams and less fear.in adult hood we have responsibilities which makes us strong by time but some time makes us exhausted ,Our dreams changed and we comes to know what are the realities of life

That's exactly true! Responsibilities, although important to shape character, can sometimes take a toll on you. I guess we can keep trying to do the best we can.

Life is always so ironical. Isn't it? When we were small, we always wanted to grow up and now when we are all grown up, growing up literally sucks! Come out of a problem, the next awaits at your door. It is hard at first to adjust, but overtime we realize that this will go on till the end of our life. We make up our mind to tackle the situations calmly as they come. Overtime, we manage to smile and stay happy always as we come to the realizations of life!!

You bring up an excellent point. We keep solving the problems hoping that it would end some day, but we soon realise that it will never do and that's just life! There is no other choice but to get accustomed to it all and keep cruising along.

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Thanks for this :)

Sometimes, when we’re young we wish were adults and when we’re adults we wish we’re younger. Life is crazy

haha that's the irony of it :D

Haha yeah that’s life anyway

Hey! @sauravrungta This is one of the most interesting posts I hope to read you again soon, greetings!

"like how winds erode sand castles" why I don't know but this last line in that part strangled my heart for a millisecond.
This series is actually going to be very useful ,I assure myself to never miss any one of them.
Much love bhai .

Thanks so much for the kind words :)

Thank you for replying big fan here.
I would be glad if for once for once you take time and check my posts.I bet you won't regret visiting it .
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