Legal Separation: Would You Rather Stay Or Walk Out Of Marriage That Is No Longer Working
In a broken family,who is affected the most? Is it the person who left or the one being left behind? Or the children that sees and feels the pain seeing their family that is falling apart? As for me I believe that the children became the victims,over wrong decisions of parents. But thinking about staying in a relationship or staying under one roof even if couples are always fighting,it will kill the family's happiness most especially the children's. The issue of legalizing Divorce here in the Philippines might be a solution for those couples that are no longer happy with their marriage. But is it really worth it? Getting legally separated with the person you promised to be with for better or for worst. Would it make things any better? Or would it worsen the situation. Some may think that it will be better to get annulled than stay in a relationship that's no longer worth fighting for. Maybe yes,maybe no.
At first,before getting married and get tied up to that person one must be very sure that the promise of "for better or for worst" will not be broken. I have seen happy faces of couples that got married ( I bet the feeling is Euphoric ). And must always remember that marriage should be a till death do us part vow. Problems that occurs in a married life might be resolved without getting annulled,couples should work things out together to resolve the growing havoc in their marriage. Or if things can't be resolved over talking,well then maybe the best thing to do is to get legally separated,than suffer and experience hell in fighting over and shouting at each other. The process might be too painful ( even more painful than the break up of boyfriend/girlfriend relationship ) because there are a lot of things at stake and a lot of people that will be affected. The parents of both party,the families and the kids.
As I have been observing a friend of mine that is now on the process of getting an annulment,my friend told me that their kids are crying and saying they don't want their parents to be separated. I am not really a fan of annulment,but if it will make both side's happy,well then that might be the best thing to do. Because as you fight for your family and your right for that marriage,and the conflicts can't be resolved,the children will see every fight and they will grow seeing how you two ( the couple ) despise each other. It will be painful and at the same time it will create trauma for the kids.
One might not agree to living at the same roof before getting married but I can say its also the best thing to know the real personality of the person that you want to spend the rest of your life with. Living in a Christian community,I understand its a big NO and I totally know why. Because it will be against moral values as a Christian. So know the person that you would like to marry and make sure that the decision you make before marrying is right. Because marriage should be for the rest of our life and family that we create after marriage will be needing our protection,esp the children,the fruit of marriage. Because they will be more affected than the parents,when undergoing legal separation.
I see a lot of couple also suffering because they chose to stay in their marriage even if they're no longer happy. Most especially I see children having trauma because of that. Couples that are no longer trying to make their marriage works fights over even in the smallest mistakes. I say if the relationship is no longer making you a better person or its no longer healthy,maybe the best thing to do is walk out of that marriage than suffer. Life is too short,don't waste every minute of it and enjoy life to the fullest.
Source Link https://www.lawyer-monthly.com/2017/06/a-guide-to-divorce-in-italy/