You’re Married To Your Spouse – Not Your Ego

" Love doesn’t break hearts. Egos do ".

Let Him Talk The Talk – Don’t Let Him Walk The Walk

When you made your spouse the promise that no external force was going to ever tear your love apart, you didn’t think that it somehow included the bad boy living 24/7 inside of you, did you?
Did you really think that your rationality was going to outweigh the insatiable urges of your ego to get some recognition?

When you walked down the aisle x years ago, your heart overflowing with love, you may have forgotten that marrying your significant other came with another contract. Perhaps one that lives within the confines of your own mind. And the fact that for many, it’s a contract that they aren’t cognizant of, the probability of damage is sky high.

While you may have known on a conscious level that marrying your spouse meant committing to keep on saying yes to them, even on the worst of days, you may not have realized that doing so also implied saying yes to your lover, even when your own ego is simultaneously holding your pride at gunpoint to say no to your spouse.
Tough decision, isn’t?

Till Ego Does Us Part

Happiness seems to be the universal goal for all human beings. It’s the "thing" most of us say we want more of. Or at least, on paper it is. Because the truth is that in the real world, something else is going on, and it doesn’t quite match our happiness-is-all-we-want claims.
If happiness is your most cherished desire, then please tell me why you seem to care more about being "right" than being happy?
If you truly value your marriage, why would you pick a fight that you know can’t be resolved, rather than picking happiness?

Paradoxically, Ego managed to make you both fall into his malicious trap. He handed you the bullets. You had to pull the trigger, right? I mean, teamwork is such a crucial value, isn’t?
You are now faced with a final choice to make before Ego calls for War.
Do you choose Ego or him?
Selfishness or Selflessness?
Inner peace or short-lived satisfaction?
John Gottman or the 4 horsemen of the apocalypse?

Who are you in it for?

(If you answered yourself to the question above, please have the respect to get yourself at least one of John Gottman’s books asap. Shipping express. No time to waste here because otherwise mister Ego will be more than glad to hand you the ticket to Divorce Town himself. And you kinda wanna prevent that from happening, right?)

It’s 4 realz… (had to share it with you guys. It made me laugh)