Life is not easy, try learn to forget

It’s Sunday morning, the couple next door quarreled again, which is the norm in their lives.

They have a regular quarrel, often start from the little small thing, and then use flashbacks to recall, unlike ordinary memoirs, they pick up discontent from the past, pain, and hatred.

The time of flashbacks is determined by the wife's mood; it can go back to before they were dating, and even back to when they just know each other.

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The theme of the quarrel is always the same, but the point of quarrel is different.

The quarrels are mainly about the wife denounced her misfortune and inhuman treatment in the family, the target of being denounced not only her husband but also about his siblings.

When she was in an emotional rage, she wished to bring the deceased parents out of the grave and scold them for their guilt.

Their quarrel is more effective than any alarm.

I feel like we are not living in the same era, as if she was talking about the evil old society.
The wife is like the landlord's long-term maid, and her husband is the landlord.

I was "amazed" at the amazing memory of the wife, and thought, if they were married for more than 20 years, there should be something good happen.

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Why in their quarrel, is all about those that should have forgotten embarrassing things.

The past should be left in the past; you don’t have to take these small and sad things to challenge each other's bottom line? It is your sadness; it is also the pain of each other.

Why keep mention about the bad past? If there were mistake done, that is in the past, let it pass, let it soaks in the rain.

There is a story about a journey.

Webb travels with Marsellus.
As they were walking through a valley, Marsellus slipped, and he was fortunate to be rescued by Webb's who desperately attempt to hold him.

Marsellus then carved on a nearby stone: the day of a certain year, Webb saved my life.

Both of them kept going and came to a river, and Webb quarreled with Marsellus for a trifle, and Webb slapped him in the face.

Marsellus ran to the beach and wrote, "the day of a certain year, Webb slapped me in the face."

When they came back, Webb asked Marsellus why he had to carve the things that saved him on a rock and write the slap on the beach.

Marsellus replied: I am forever grateful you saved me, I will remember. As for the hurt, let it disappear with the writing on the beach, and forget everything.

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Forget the need to choose, remember when others are good to you, forget those hurt and unhappy, so that your heart will be full of sunshine to enrich the life.

There is a special elementary school in New Jersey in the United States, where there is a special class consisting of 26 children who have fallen into the school.

Some of them took drug, some had been in juvie, their parents, teachers, and schools were very disappointed with them, and even wanted to give them up, a female teacher named Fira asked to take over the class.

Fira's first class, not as strict as the previous teacher, she gives everyone a choice of questions on the blackboard, so that the students can choose a person to aspire from according to their own judgment.

She listed three candidates:
A. A witch doctor has two mistresses and years of smoking history and is an alcoholic.
B. Sleep until noon every day, drink about 1 liters of brandy every night, and have the experience of opium smoking.
C. A former war hero in the country, always keeping a vegetarian habit, doesn’t smoke, occasionally drink beer, and never doing anything illegal when young.

Everyone's answer coincides with C.

Fira released the answer: A was Roosevelt, who served as President of the United States for four consecutive years; B was Churchill, the most famous prime minister in British history; C was Hitler, Fascist demon.

Everyone was stunned, Fira told everyone with passion: "Children, the past honor, and disgrace can only represent the past." What truly represents a person's life is his/her present and future.

From now on, try to do what you want to do in your life, and you will all be great people.
Fira’s lesson changed the fate of these 26 children.

Historically, these famous great men have no perfect life, and we need not criticize ourselves.
From now on, regardless of the hatchet, go ahead, there will be a better tomorrow.

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Life is a grand meet, we will meet beautiful thing, we will also encounter trouble.

Human is a conflict animal. On one side, hope that we can live free and easy, relaxed and comfortable, but often inadvertently made ourselves a lot of trouble and burden.

If really want to live leisurely, then, why not learn to forget, forget those without prejudice to the personal principle of gain and loss, an overall picture stumbling, harmless old gap?

There is no need to know everything. Life all the way, there is happiness and warmth, there are pain and misery.
All these are their choice, because no regrets mean no miss, no consolation will not have gain.

Remember, there is no pain in this world that is prepared for you.

So don't think you're a lonely pain.
Under the eaves of the Earth, many people, many things, more pain, many broken-hearted people.

In the pain of the mortal beings, you will find that your own this pain, doesn’t mean anything.

Forget is the open-minded and open-minded to life, only forget those who should forget, empty your hearts, so that you can inject the beautiful things.

Let us try to learn to forget, let life travel light.

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