Love and Hate: The effect in the world we live in.
Love/Hate.
The word Love and Hate are too different words entirely. They live in their own world and exist totally independent of each other. But what amazes me is how one can easily and quickly be transformed to the other.
Love, we were told, rather made to understand, is kind, caring, and all the good stuff. Hate on the other hand is the opposite of love, greed, anger, bitterness,jealousy, revenge, etc.
Agree, these two attribute exist and function in their own world, but what I will not agree with is that they can function together at the same time. That is an impossibility I am yet to believe can be possible.
Pls note: functioning together at the same time.
Lately, there is been frequent occurrences of spouses killing one another.
I do not mean the diabolical/witchcraft killing majorly know in Africa. I mean physical face to face intentional hurt/killing.
These before now, was a rare occurrence in this part of the world. Unfortunately, that cannot be said anymore, as it has been more of a frequent occurrence than having a full moon.
The Worrisome Question:
How does once loving someone so dearly, going through the trouble of marrying him/her, degenerate into Hate? Hate to the extent of getting physical and killing is involved?
If you ask me, I will tell you it was never love. It must have been something else mistaken for love.
There must be something that feels like love, that many have misunderstood to be love.
I am yet to find a name to what it is, and would appreciate if someone is kind enough to tell me what it is called.
Why not walk away?
Why hang in there?
Does it really worth giving up your live for?
I am yet to comprehend how what seemed to be love, transform into hate that quickly and easily.
Would appreciate opinions, share of personal experiences or other people's experience you have come across.
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I too am yet to know what it is called @ceepee.
Truly speaking i don't know what would result to spouses killing each other. It was once a rare occurence but now it occurs almost on a frequent basis which i must say is appaling.
You asked @ceepee,
Well in this part of Africa, christians usually take part in marriages done in the church which binds you in holy matrimony with your spouse.
In this bind, there is no quitting, but rather it is a matter of "Till death do us part", literally. I really don't blame those that physically harm their partners. Like you said, it might have never really been love.
Most people get into marriage looking at the financial benefits or future benefits hence ignoring the warning signs of future maltreatment from their spouses.
Till i know what is the cause for such brutality, i will really never be sure of what to call it @ceepee.
Thanks a lot for this inspiring and wonderful post @ceepee.
Thank you @chiboyzz, the frequent occurrence calls for worries. It still a mystery to me why such brutality to someone you once loved.
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You are welcome @ceepee. Your posts are always inspiring.
It can never be love. Love is patient it's kind. I don't think someone can intentionally harm someone they claim to love. If one truly love someone they do their possible best to avoid seeing the person getting hurt. Most times people get married for various reasons, the worst that can happen is when someone confuse lust for love. Lust can be in their partner's physical appearance, carrier, financial state and so on. A marriage build on lust is bound to fail. I will advise everyone to choose the door when they know the heat in a marriage or relationship is getting too much. It's better to walk away than to stay and die
Beautiful write up @ceepee
Thank you @prechyrukky for the advise. How I wish they will just walk away. Is it really possible to hurt someone you love? I doubt that.
Nice post this is inspiring
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Well in my own opinion, i don't think love still exist, because if you love your spouse no matter what he or she did, you wouldn't be capable of raising your hands on them not to even think of killing him or her. I think what are practicing now adays is understanding and tolerance ,because this our generation is something else
I agree with you..
Mine will be very short. I hope it pass the message tho.
There is a difference between the "in love feeling" and "real love". So many people now setter for the former and ignore the latter. Almost anyone can be "in love" but not everyone can "love". "in love" focus on what you can get from the relationship. It focus on the emotions, the romantic dinner, the candle lights, the sweet promises and the "happily ever after". Love is more than what you get from a relationship; it is what you can give to a relationship. I think so many have been influenced by external forces like movies, songs, lifestyle of celebrities to think they've found true love.
Still wondering how this correlates with @ceepee 's post? Well, there is no true love again so people can do anything they want in the relationship or marriage Now.
Thank you @mr-aaron for the opinion shared. Like you said, it is never love. But you could still find true love in some marriages. I think societal pressure and in a bid of earning the married title, many people to marry out of love.
Yeah, they are rare tho and also very lovely.
The question has two answers.
1 They never loved each other or
2 The once loved each other but now they started seeing the faults of one another. The once had a heart that easily forgives and a eye that easily over look faults. But those eyes and hearts has being replaced by hatred and pride.
Things will never go when there is true love. Love and hatred can never dwell together.
Thanks @ceepee, that's my view
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