Many of us think that we will find happiness or feel complete when we find a partner who in a certain way complements us, it is natural to pursue physical pleasures or something that can give us some psychological gratification, someone who understands us, that in a certain way nourishes our self-esteem. We feel safer, more supported and believe that for a happier time but what happens when things change? When time passes, when we have bad days and the relationship becomes a kind of love-hate.

When there is a disagreement that triggers a conflict and at the same time the dissatisfaction becomes present, many times we manage to solve it because we know that it is something that at some point is going to occur, the problem occurs when it becomes frequent and becomes a drama to which we become accustomed. When we realize we are trapped in a toxic relationship, everyone notices except you.

Scientists often compare love to a drug because of the effects it has on our brains, but they have wondered what happens when the drug is no longer available? Love relationships will always have a positive side and a negative side like everything else in life, it has two polarities. The negative side is easy to recognize can manifest as possessiveness, jealousy, the need to be right, insensitivity, emotional complaints and manipulation, the need to discuss, criticize, judge, blame or attack. This is often triggered by thinking that person can no longer be there for you, for fear of loss or even other factors.

The positive side is when it makes you feel intensely alive, wanted and special, sometimes the feeling can be so intense that the rest of the world fades away but the question is:

How do we know if it's love?