10 Ways You Can Tell the Difference between Love & Infatuation

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So you think you’re in love? Well, you might want to think again because love isn’t what you think it is. You might be making things up in your head. Infatuation is really perilous and it’s a one-time thing. The problem is that infatuation is a really powerful feeling compared to love. In fact, it can overwhelmingly empower you making you think you are far ahead in the paradise of love and it’s impossible to return. The truth of the matter, however, is that infatuation can be removed with strong determination and thoughtful observance. However, it takes ages to forget someone who’s been a part of your soul for either a long or a short period.

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If you can’t figure out whether you’re really in love or it’s just infatuation, you’re confused and have mixed feelings. Here are 10 ways you can deduce those feelings.

Love Doesn’t Distract You

So here’s the thing. You think you are in love. But that certain person takes up all your time. You spend half your day talking to them while neglecting your duties and necessary chores. You are bored, so you rush to talk to them. You think because they are consuming up your day, it must be love. While the truth is, love will not take away your precious time rather advise you to keep up with your schedule, cope with your work, your job, your household chores. And if they’re nearby and close to where you are, they might help you out too.

Infatuation is Childish

Take an example of a child who sees a toy in the store; brand new, shiny, and quite an amazing toy that very few kids his age possess. So they long to get their hands on it, implore their parents, and cry until they are able to get that toy. What happens next to that toy is what we do to the people we feel an infatuation towards. The child keeps the toy safe for the first few days. Then he starts to get bored because obviously, he sees a new and a better version. This is exactly what happens with your infatuation. Love is when you get your hand on the cheapest toy in the store yet take care of it for as long as you live, as if it’s your own child.

Love Forgives

Like every other normal couple, you get into fights and arguments with each other. But the important part is forgiveness and acceptance; so if you can easily forgive your partner and move on, it is definitely love. Because love forgives while infatuation holds grudges, this is love.


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Infatuation Brings Out Possessiveness and Obsession

When it is infatuation, you know you waste your time around them and even they have no problem with you doing that. Infatuation asks for way too much attention and obsession. On the other hand, love requires respect and privacy as well as motivation for each other to succeed in every field of life. Sacrifice is the biggest deed of love.

Love is a Slow Process

When you are in love, you don’t know it right away. It is believed about love at first sight that it is true, but that has a mixture of infatuation. Even love at first sight takes time to make you believe it.

Infatuation Craves Physical Affection

When you are infatuated with someone, you wish to have a physical connection with them. But love seeks connection at a deeper level. A connection that is everlasting and soul-deep. You want to get to know them mentally and spiritually before you even think about getting physically intimate with them.

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Love Reforms Your Personality

As you fall in love with someone, you wish to know more about their lifestyle and their habits, likes and dislikes as well as everything related to them in any way. You want to train yourself to be a better person for them every single day. So you reform your personality for the better. Hence, love changes you completely.

Infatuation Is Not Monogamous

Love is monogamous. Infatuation can be with two or more people at the same time. You feel the same emotion for several people and that’s how you know it is absolutely not love. You can be infatuated with many people at the same time but you only love one person.

Love is Quiet

Infatuation is flamboyant and lurid, whereas love is quiet yet speaks volumes.

Infatuation Demands Perfection

Another best way to find out whether it is really love or just infatuation is to observe what the other person requires from you. If it is change that they want, it is definitely infatuation. Because love requires no change, it accepts however you are and applauds every good move that you make.


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In most descriptions of infatuation, slightly more negative aspects are highlighted. And they are all true. I really like your post. And I liked it so much that I would like to add my opinion because not everything is negative in infatuation.

We will not deny that we all miss those years of adolescence in which we experience many crushes, platonic loves

I think infatuation is part of love, in the same way that our bodies grow with age, so do our feelings. Expectations about love change throughout life.

It is the same as in a genuine love relationship gradually passes from unbridled passion to a more spiritual dimension, at the same time as the body ages.

They are stages that we are overcoming. And in my opinion, infatuation is one of these stages. And it is really beautiful!



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I am of the opinion that sometimes genuine infatuation could lead to love¤

You might be partially right but Infatuation can frustrate but love endures.

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i totally agree with you these are some common ways which help us differentiate between love and infatuation..

Love is mostly about sacrifice, you sacrifice your time to make them happy, you bring out the best in them at your expense, you feel hurt when they are hurt, you starve for them to be satisfied, the power of love is so great.. Am inspired by the great writer of this content...

Excelente post, soy nueva de esta gran comunidad espero contar con tu apoyo...

This is a well explanatory post. To summarize the 10 differences between love and infatuation from my point of view, I say love is a mutual feeling that pushes two people to be active in each other life while infatuation is a desire which may not be mutual that pushes you to impress at all cost, demand attention from another party which maybe unsatisfied.

I agree that there are great differences, and that people mistake infatuation for love. But, I don't agree that love needs to be monogamous. There are many people that love multiple people concurrently, even for many many years.

I also don't believe that the fluttery feeling of infatuation needs to fade entirely. We can still feel that for people that we have been loving for years, if we cultivate excitement, never take our love for granted, and remind ourselves that our partners is in fact a new version of themselves, a new person every day that we encounter them.

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