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SELF LOVE

What exactly is self love? Can it make you happy and fulfilled?

One of the most popular motivational word out there is on self love,almost everything draws you back to the question, "do you love yourself?" and almost every inspirational talker will remind you on how you have to love yourself so what is self love and how do you go about it?

Self love is not that sweet feeling or the bright smile on your face when an award is presented to you. Self love is not you admiring yourself in the mirror for hours after loosing weight and making a nice hair. Self love is not all about that, it is not conditioned to the good days only, it's not a reward that should be giving to yourself only in good times.

How do you treat yourself when you fail at something? Is there any love for the figure you see when you wake up in the morning looking tattered? Can you say you love you at odd times? Do you love yourself when you are scolded for not getting something right? Do you enjoy your company?

Yes self love is unconditional love for yourself. It doesn't mean being rigid to growth and refusing to change in necessary areas because you love yourself, if you love yourself, you will seek growth and development, you will always tell yourself the truth and cheer yourself up if there is no one to do that.

There is something I wish to correct... it's ok to feel lonely. Being lonely or maybe depressed at a time doesn't exactly mean that you lack self love. You can't give yourself all the joy you demand, sometimes you will need the company of a friend or lover so don't allow the fear of being judged for not loving yourself enough stop you from speaking out when you are lonely or depressed.