5 the habit of the miserable wives

in #love6 years ago

Many couples live in unhappy marriage. Either partner is frustrated, or both. However, divorce is not always an option. Some continue to live in a lack of happiness, hoping for things to improve.
Most unhappy wives have their own specific habits that show their emotional state.

Trying to return old feelings

At the beginning of the relationship and marriage, they felt love, passion, excitement, anxious to spend the rest of their lives with the person they adored. Bad times, characters, commitments, difficulties in many cases dissociate people, make them see things they have previously been blind.
So the feelings gradually cool down, and people try to remember how chemistry was made before.

What they can not comprehend is that the past is past. Over the years, people are changing, circumstances are changing, life is going on. To be happy we have to adapt to the present moment, here and now. We can not be the ones we have ever been.

They have unrealistic expectations

Most happy matrimonial partners have realistic expectations of marriage and life. They do not wear pink glasses, accept their partners with their flaws and do not try to change them.
Conversely, when you fantasize about a life that looks like an idyllic tale, things can quickly go wrong.
This does not mean that we should not have expectations because they help us build a sense of the dream partnership that will make us happy. But in order to avoid the chronic disappointment of everything, we must all learn realistically to look at life, relationships, marriage, relationships.

They would be happy only when their partners change

Unhappy wives almost constantly mumble to their husbands for various problems - work, money, leisure, children. They always want something to change, and they do not realize that change is a two-way process. If you are in such situations, try a different approach. Do not fret and make no direct remarks. Change your own behavior. Take the initiative to solve the problems. It can be a better and stimulating change strategy for your partner.

They constantly account for a result in their marriage

A point for you, a point for it. Pros and cons - continually water statistics about who does better with commitments, making money, caring for children, doing homework. This is how you find reasons for more and more mumble, remarks, discontent.
With this strategy, you can not be happy in your marriage. When a person searches only for the negative, there is always something to catch.

They ignore themselves

Some women choose not to pay attention to their own needs in the name of the family good. At one point, this choice brings them satisfaction. Often such women carry this character of nature at birth and can not escape from themselves. They cling to, silent, agree with the things their husbands define.

Gradually a sense of injustice, lack of happiness, dissatisfaction.

Before we blame our partner for marital failure, we also need to think about our own bad habits that can contribute to the sense of misfortune and waning proximity.

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What they can not comprehend is that the past is past. Over the years, people are changing, circumstances are changing, life is going on. To be happy we have to adapt to the present moment, here and now. We can not be the ones we have ever been.

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After 36 years of marriage, I've learned to always say to myself "you're the asshole" when I'm getting ready to strike out at my wife. When I do that, I couple it with thinking of all the terrible things I've done.

Works for me...

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