Love Does NOT Hurt! The Absence of Love Hurts. Reversing The Damage Done Due To Ignorance of Love's Function.

in #love6 years ago (edited)

In the course of my process of healing, balancing and evolving I have been shown many of the ways that love is missing on Earth and so is missing in my life too. In truth, love has been so missing that the image we are commonly being told of what love is, is actually not love at all. In many cases, guilt is being dressed up as love and many have not yet noticed this fatal switch that amounts to the difference between life and death - since without love, life is not possible and guilt shuts down both life and love.

We are vibrational beings, we vibrate as part of being alive - we move, shake, make sounds and express emotionally... These are all part of the normal function of a living essence/being. Anything that is done to limit our vibrational level is actually harming us and can cause us real pain. For example, if I am laughing with joy (a vibration) and am told to 'shut up' by someone who it is claimed 'loves' me - then I am torn between the definition that says that since 'my love' has told me to shut down then it must be unloving for me to be joyful and the more true definition that says that there is nothing wrong with being joyful. The pain comes if I agree to 'shut up' since it does not feel good to be controlled and our real emotions need to move. Another form of pain might then arise if I do not 'shut up' and then start to feel all of my other emotions that have been controlled by this being and how little love there might actually/truly be between us. If full self acceptance were present then the path of honesty would not increase the levels of pain in me, but instead I would take action to increase the balance in my relationship. Therefore, the agreement to stifle my own emotions is the more painful and destructive option here.

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When we have emotions and they are controlled, instead of allowed to express - we are accepting blame into us that says that we are wrong and possibly not good enough just for being as we are and responding as we are. Blame can create guilt and guilt shuts us down, both in the present and in the future - until it is cleared out. Any time there is a lack of love that enters us, we can experience a reduction in vibration and wellbeing. This is just one of the many reasons why it is essential to limit who you engage with in life, to those who are either high in their levels of real love (which can be felt) and those who are consciously healing towards holding a high level of real, felt love.

Love hurts? Really?


We have been so conditioned away from the truth of love that the phrase 'love hurts' is a common one - yet it is the absolute opposite of the truth. It would be more accurate to say that 'Most have not experienced real, felt, love yet and that yearning for real love, itself comes from the pain within us'.

I have described, basically, what the absence of love does to our feelings and vibration - but what does real love do then?

In a world of beings with various levels of love in them, the actions of real love can be complex to explain, since love needs to respond in so many different ways in so many different situations. However, the principle that love expresses is a seeking of understanding, of felt balance that feels good to all involved and the allowance of a real peace and harmony.

Everyone has different needs and so part of love's task is to understand them and make sure that no-one feels over-ridden.

While the absence of love and the presence of guilt will shut us down and limit our potential and expression in life - love will do the opposite.

Imagine a dog that lives in the home of some humans. Perhaps the dog has been abused or just feels like not really respecting the human way of thinking and living. If the dog tears up some furniture, what can the humans do in response?

Those who do not embody love might resort to shouting at the dog, physically/verbally attacking the dog or otherwise 'punishing' the dog as an attempt to control the dog and program into it a rigid response that is based on trying to 'teach' it that it is 'bad' for doing the destructive action. Now though, the dog has fear of the humans and does not love or trust them as much. While the dog may be beaten into submission it has also lost some of it's power and strength too. This convenience and lazy behavior from the humans has unlovingly injured the dog and this may then literally come back to bite the humans later on in the form of adding to a depressed energy in the home and maybe ill health for the dog and those around the dog/house.

The alternative option here would instead be to lovingly FEEL the dog and by understanding the dog empathically to then take the steps needed to communicate with the dog and change the dog's life/patterns in a way that helps the dog to feel respected and to also know that you do not want the dog to behave that way. The absence of judgement and blame does not mean the absence of power and will. By forming a reciprocal bond with the dog that feels good, the dog can then be allowed to form a level of understanding about itself and it's situation whereby it can choose for itself whether or not it wants/needs to continue the unconscious destruction. When real love is present and healing takes place within the dog (and maybe humans) in the form of emotional evolution and a change of thinking/direction/heart then in many cases, the outcome can be a strong bond of respect forming between those involved and the ending of destructive behaviour based on that respect, instead of being based on control, domination and discord.

This understanding applies just as equally to the relationships between people, parents/children and yes, between entire nations and their 'governments'.

It is not until we accept ourselves fully that we can even know who we really are and what we really want/need. Given the huge gap in our common (mis)understanding of these key issues, imagine now how much potential for healing, balancing and evolving there is on Earth. The difference between the past and the potential future once mass healing has been completed is so vast that it is actually not possible for us to imagine its form at this point!

If you feel inspired to learn more about these understandings, I suggest reading through some of my earlier posts - such as my heart healing series (Part 3 is here).

Wishing you well,

Ura Soul

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This is the real truth.In fact, the world is going to be like this now, with the thought of time, everything is changing in the way of thinking.

I've been searching for a man of love for a long time.

This is a sad truth and reality.. Love must be sincere..

@ura-soul Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace, and gratitude.

Hmmm, this pure wisdom manifesting... Thank you sir

Indeed, love don't hurt, it is the absence of it that hurt. In fact, the only healing to been hurt is love and more love.

True love is in action when individuals are allowed to do things that flow naturally out of them not what is enforced on them.

Thank you for the illustration as well, what works with animals also work with man.

I am feeling you on this one. The human identities view of love is always conditional, whereas the pure being doesn't know anything about these conditions and judgments. Going to check out your heart healing series, as this has been a really big theme lately in what I am working on. Thank you for your transmission, much love.

It is not until we accept ourselves fully that we can even know who we really are and what we really want/need.
This is absolutely true, ive been into such situation before. Accepting one's self can be the most difficult thing to do,
Exceptional article about love @ura-soul

This is true , writing is very nice . Keep good work .

I resteem your post on my blog .

Your post is always different i follow your blog and upvote everytime , your post is so helpful . I always inspire of your post on my steem work . Thank you for sharing @ura-soul

I like how you used vibration as an action done by us in majority of things we do and even in love.

We vibrate to talk, to create thoughts and dreams, with one synapses going from one to the other traveling in energy and vibration.

Another word that I would like to use would be resonance because when we love we resonate with another human being. When we believe in a vision of someone we describe it as resonating with.

Love hurts but it can also heal.

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