THE REALITIES OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

in #marriage6 years ago

The first female lawyer threatened to stab her husband and eventually did. Fortunately for the man, he survived and remained under the same roof with the wild animal. She succeeded in her second attempt, plunged the knife in his neck and it happened in his sleep. He died! What a world.

The second woman (not a lawyer) threatened to kill her husband, he thought it was a mere joke. On the night of a big fracas, it happened. The curtains were closed on him. He died! What a world.

The recent one threatened to kill her husband, maybe he felt it was a mere woman trying to nag his soul away. Alas, he was mistaken. The threat became a reality and in a gruesome way too. He died! What a world too.

No gender deserve to be treated in a violent way or made to lose their lives.
Our society (African race) need to do better because, most people lose their lives in an attempt to remain perfect and not be judged. They don't want their church members, friends, business partners, neighbours and those who look up to them to laugh at them. They don't want their family to lose faith in them and see them as a failure. So they stay. They stay to calm our judgemental and finger pointing souls.
They stay in abusive and emotional wrecking marriages.

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In an attempt to live up to the standards of our society, tension will keep rising, anger will be built, division and hatred will creep in and one day, there will be a strike. Both are victims but one person will remain mute forever.

The dead don't speak. The dead don't defend themselves. Most times, it looks like it is their world against yours, but when the flavour is lost, break the door and walk away.

There is no excuse for being violent and there is no excuse too for staying with a violent man or woman. Know when to draw the lines before it becomes too late. You have to love yourself more to be able to know when a union is too toxic. Simply walk away.

They say walking away is not that simple. Then try being a victim or the murderer then you will wish you simply walked away.

'You have to love yourself more to be able to know when a union is too toxic. Simply walk away ' - many of the victims don't love themselves and allow the marriage to define them.

No Feeling that outside of that marriage they are nobodies and so they continue to pray/hope that the bully would change one day. And because bullies never change, while praying /hoping for the change they become victims.

The whites who brought Christianity to us, do not condone infidelity not to talk of domestic violence and yet our churches/pastors continue to tell us to endure and keep praying that an unfaithful /abusive/ violent partner would change one day.

The fear of what people will say has really killed a whole lot of people in Africa especially Nigeria. One needs to know what he really wants in life. Living a fake life to please others is not the solution. Be happy always, happiness is not found in a violent marriage. I love ur write up.

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Please say no to domestic violence today, remember it's now a two way thing, affecting both genders.

I am your friend, @ambdavid

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