Marriage II.

in #marriage6 years ago

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This continuation is in response to "What is expected of couples in marriage".

Eight: Secret. "Love is like a rain, so gentle and pure, like a secret, so hard to share". Marriage expects the keeping of secrets. There are some things that are peculiar to your family. You don't need to go about sharing them or exposing them. You need to be able to cover each other when some certain matters are concerned.

Nine: You need to trust each other. Not only with other gender, but as regards decision making. Marriage expects trust between parties.

Ten: You both need to respect each other. There are no two ways about it. You cannot love fully when you have no regard for the other person..Marriage expects mutual respect by both parties.

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Eleven: You need to be sensitive. Marriage expects sensitivity. You need to be sensitive to each other's need and wants. Not everything can be communicated in words from your partner, you need to be able to heightened your sensitivity to know some things without being told, as regards what they need per time.

Twelve: You need to work together. Togetherness is paramount. Marriage expects the togetherness of a couple. When you leave cracks here and there, it is only a matter of time before it crumbles. Communication helps a little more in this aspect.

Thirteen: You need to act with every sense of responsibility in a marriage. Don't shift responsibilities because as couples, marriage expects a sense of responsibility from both parties. Whoever is capable of taking on that responsibility at that time should and it shouldn't be just one person's duty and the other person is not expected to sit back and just relax too.

Fourteen: Selflessness. You need to be selfless. You need to stop focusing only on your needs and wants. Be considerate with the other person too. Marriage expects selflessness and sacrifice. You can give without loving sometimes, but you cannot love without giving. It has to cost you something. Stretch and stop making it all about you but don't lose yourself in the process. Balance is needed and this is where understanding matters. Love is meaningless without sacrifice.

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Happiness is key. Happiness is vital. Happiness is important. It is important that we strive for happiness in marriage. Whatever will not lead to happiness, cut it off. Happiness is vital and it is attainable. Marriage without happiness is a present continuous trauma. It drains you emotionally and if affects every part of your life. Peace is non-negotiable in marriage. If there’s no peace, then there is no happiness and when happiness is missing, there is no good marriage.

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Yeah up here fam..... Well detailed post to assisting a marriage expsosed to fall out.... Yeah, but just dropping by to have this to say: it's good to keep up with our secret as a couple but I still want to believe there are sometimes one thing or the other that might not be kept as a secret..... To me those things are meant to be exposed but after the exposure there will now be a way forward to those things....... By this I want to conclude by saying yes.... In marriage too we disagree to agree to some issues ...... Great and helpful post fam.

Nice one. That was why i said "some things":

There are some things that are peculiar to your family. You don't need to go about sharing them or exposing them. You need to be able to cover each other when some certain matters are concerned.

There are some issues that needed to stay in your family without external interference. Not even to report to your own family members. You need to protect your marriage in every way but this doesn't cover domestic violence, that's why i was particular to use the word "some".

Thanks for your view as always. Always appreciated.

Respect and communication is the basis of a happy marriage

Good marriage advice, though not real easy to follow but very essential.

Nothing is ever easy. We always need to stretch.

Thanks a lot sir.

Such a lovely article on marriage.

Boss, despite the fact that people go for counselling before marriage, they still have issues.... Only God can help the couples to be patient and tolerate themselves..

God bless your home sir..
Your woman is lucky to have ya

Depends on what they choose to learn and how they wish to be better. Counselling can't touch every area, we need to work on ourselves. The bulk rests with us.

Amen. Thanks a lot dear. Really appreciate you. God bless your heart and home too dear.

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