From a slave to a master, chapter # 8 - The plot I made, inventing a soul-lover, in order to manipulate my mind

A Memoir

Excerpt

enlightenment was a too abstract concept for me. I could not grasp it in my mind. Actually, it was so elusive that I even could not know that I was actually seeking enlightenment. I needed to bring that concept to a level where I could grasp it, work with it. I needed to find a goal, a trophy, bigger than myself and my current life then, to inspire me, to lead me in the nose, so to speak, slowly and surely on the road with the yellow bricks that I was about to walk, until I will stand, face to face, with enlightenment, and be ready for it. So I invented a concept, a notion.

I invented True Love. And in this article, I describe the characters I gave to it.

Disclaimer: romantic relationships between two people are gender-free. Meaning, a man-woman relationship is the same as a man-man or a woman-woman relationship, for the purpose of this content. In my writings, I relate to man and woman for simplicity's sake.

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I coin the term soul-lover as an expansion of the old aged word “soul mate” in order to emphasize the special focus I put on the creation of the romantic relationship. A soul lover is a human being who is connected with another human being for a very specific purpose – a romantic relationship. This individual is not just a friend or a close relative but carries unique and specific attributes that make him or her our most intimate lover in the world, in this life and even beyond that. Because of the fact that the phrase soul-mate does not describe well enough the love connection that two souls share I will adopt from now on the term “soul-lover” as my loyal companion.

I am about to lead you towards a personal journey, perhaps the most intimate one that you have ever done. Although your path is carved according to your unique characters I do believe that my words will strengthen your spirit and encourage you whenever a new challenge will come upon or the uncertainty might try to lead you astray, off the main road.

Before we take the first tangible step it is essential that you know what awaits you on the other side of the journey for you may realize that enlightenment (and True Love) is not something you choose at all and therefore it is not your wish to spend the required efforts to achieve it.

Your blood family is not your true family

Your soul-lover is your true family. Indeed, you live your lives amongst your seed family with a father, a mother and perhaps siblings. From time to time you all gather together at big family events where you meet distant relatives whom you have not seen in ages. At such occasions, you are surprised to realize that you do not feel any significant closeness to those people albeit the blood relationships. On the contrary – some of your friends with whom you interact every day most surely fill a bigger part in your life and touch your heart deeper than those distant relatives. And the truth is that it would be very practical to say that **the family you were born to in flesh and blood is Not your true family**.

Your true family was left behind at your real home far away in time and space. Sometimes, at night, when you lie supine in your bed, eyes fixed upwards and your soul wanders towards that distant and spacious home of yours, you make the connection with that family that you left behind. The dreams of such nights may bring you closer, and further reflect that place if you only could remember them. And then you ask yourself, how do I go there, to my natural home, away from this harsh life that I live daily?

Bring home here

The truth is quite the opposite. Your journey towards enlightenment and the love that you seek is not going to lead you back home but rather **it is you who are bringing your home over here**, to your current reality. That home has already begun its journey towards you – for your calling had been heard – and it is your responsibility now to accept it. All you need is patience and awareness.

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The essence of the soul lovers

• If you are a man, your soul-lover is your best friend; she is the most beautiful woman you could ever conjure up in your imagination. Close your eyes – how do you perceive her hair color to be? And her smile? And what her demeanor would be? You must enquire to your self about all that for it is your soul-lover that awaits you. This One of yours is the closest person to you of all human beings on earth. She knows your doings and deeds since you were born; she is aware of all of your plots and games, good and bad alike, and she accepts them all with unconditional love. For you see, your best friend has nothing in her heart but full acceptance, complete compassion, and desire for you.

• If you are a woman, your soul-lover is the same prince-charming riding a white horse of whom you have dreamt in your childhood and whose figure you shared with your entourage of fairies every time you summoned them to listen. Can you recall the times they caressed your head, promising that your dreams are indeed real and not just a fatuous apparition? But when you grew up and life got harder, you dismissed your faithful entourage, while blaming them for deceiving you. “Handsome princes and white horses do not exist”, so you repeatedly tried to convince yourself. But you see, your soul-lover is a true gentleman. He is always by your side, escorting your courageous steps with his glance and worries for any potential hazard on your way. He is the one who opens the doors for you but at the same time leaves you to handle your own choices. Kindness and benevolence are well rooted in his essence. He will never treat you crudely, never curse you, judge you or be mad at you, no matter what you do. For he knows what life is and how tender your heart is.

Know - both of you - that your soul-lover understands all your actions and never judges your past or the arduous path that has led you to this point. The soul-lovers are the most faithful persons that can be found and their love towards you surpasses any ingenuity. Their whole existence revolves around you. They are indeed coupled with you in powerful ties and every word they say or thought they think are connected to you in an enchanted and mysterious way.

But mind you, that is not to say that they lack independent life or self-sufficient existence. For they certainly do and more than any other human. Only their lives are experienced through yours as much as your essence is enriched by theirs. When finally, you two meet, at the end of a long day, you both feel how deep the love is. Much as you find yourselves amongst a heavy crowd and your connection cannot be broken, a short eye-contact fortifies it. And should you signal to your lover, with a slight move of your head, that you miss them and needs them close to you right now, they then would break the fine threads they had woven with others and rush towards you. Such is the nature of your connection with your soul-lover.

Can you feel your soul lover right now? Try. It is simple. Picture, feel and envision a person with whom you feel totally comfortable, the most peaceful, with no need to justify yourself or to explain your actions. Such person is your soul lover.

Regardless, do not delude yourselves to think that your soul-lovers will manage your life for you and instead of you, for this is not their job. Your lives – are yours. Indeed, they will be by your side, accompanying you at the harsh moments, advising you and reassuring their unconditional love. They will be there to offer their everlasting support and by so doing easing the path and perhaps neutralizing a pitfall or two. All that they will do and more to ensure the best conditions for you to make the appropriate decision on your path. Your soul lover will indeed be the lover that you so long for. You are one body, are you not, and the physical attachment will serve as a valuable sign for developing your trust in yourself and in your expected breakthroughs.

Are you beginning to have a clue, an indication, of the genuine essence of the soul-lover? Can you feel the inklings in your immediate now moment that hint about the existence of your personal and intimate soul lover in your life? Perhaps they are not physical yet, but have no doubt – they are real indeed and one day will come to ally with you.

As it is.