How to get self-confidence?

The thing that many people call "lower self-esteem" is not quite what it seems at first glance.

This is the fall of the crown from your head. Yes, yes, we all have it.

Yesterday it seemed to you that your importance is high, but today you feel that you were mistaken. Your importance in society has not changed, but your crown with a crash fell to the floor.

Falling and loosening of the crown is the main cause of unstable and insecure state of people.

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Confident people are always idols. Many people want to imitate such a person because he makes a strong impression on people. He is strong and independent, he is successful and everyone is drawn to him. Everyone wants to get or learn this self-confidence.
Some people think that self-confidence can be acquired only after pumping resources, talking with coaches, or after a series of some trainings. Up to this point, it's normal to be uncertain. Because we can become strong and confident in the future.
However, strength begins with self-confidence.
Most people can feel this moment. They notice that their success depends on self-confidence, and with strong insecurity, nothing happens. But then many make a paradoxical conclusion: other people should give confidence to these people!
Colleagues should be loyal and patient to your mistakes, your parents should have cultivated you in constant praise, your lover MUST give you constant compliments.

People believe so strongly in this, therefore, they have very unstable and dependent self-esteem. Because at the place of their self-confidence they have emptiness.

Imagine how people are used to looking for confidence somewhere else, but not in themselves. They want to rely on the opinions of others and become self-confident.

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Which of these is a way out?

To become self-confident, you must stop feeding the crown. And that's all. There will be confidence.

• The first thing you need to start building confidence is to stop making an impression on everyone. No need to please all people. This does not happen.
  The impression that you make on people does not belong to you, you should not assign it. Do not be fooled by this.
• The second is that you need to grow your own self-confidence, and for this you must get rid of all of "show off" .
  "Show off" - the habit of appearing to be someone else, and not being yourself.
  If you are very concerned about what other people think of you, then you are a dependent person. If you are not at all sure of your inner content and think that everything exists only in the eyes of others, then you do not have yourself at all. You can't say that you are weak, you just do not exist.
  If you exist, you have your own view of things, your own world. You believe yourself and you are ready to change your opinion from the inside, because this is your own opinion, this is your life and your laws.
  This is how self-confidence grows.
  This confidence can not affect anyone's assessment. Never.

Do you feel confident? What does it depend on?