They banned burqa in Denmark and I'm in a moral dilemma

I am having a burqa discussion with some friends following the recent ban in Denmark and I feel I’m the one being a d*ck for once. So I guess I’m here to ask what would be your arguments?

Personally, I am supportive of the ban for 2 main classical reasons:

• How can we know it’s their will to wear it as they cannot engage in any discussion? Accepting it means we accept a culture of impunity for people forcing their families to adopt the behavior they see fit for them. Women in hijab can and do speak constantly, participating at every stage of society. But we cannot understand women wearing the burqa as they are restricted to talk to men. This sounds supra patriarchal, but I don’t know any lady who had a discussion with one of them neither.
• Even if it was their free will to wear it and to not talk to half of the society, as leftist as I am, it is rather normal than Europe doesn't want people refusing to engage in society, to work with everyone, to talk with everyone, in the name of their religion, to live on the continent and refusing to contribute to our society. We are secular countries, but some common sense always prevails.

So we have two choices, either we engage in long-term education, either we take coercive measures.

And the reason I think coercion works, is because the whole debate we are currently having in Europe, Iran already had it, a century ago (Yes, Persians always do it better!).

• As some of you might or not know, is that Reza Shah, during his reign, forbad the veil and the chador (burqa and niqab are not used at all in Iran). He was Muslim, he even named his son Mohammed, and yet he forced upon the majority of the population, muslim as well, to stop interpreting the religion in a fundamental way. So the obvious problem arose: how did women wearing the chador or veil reacted? They either had to stay at home, either go outside and adapt to the new rules, the trick ended up being wearing a hat. Some stayed at home, some went out.

• Then came the son (the American puppet), Mohammed Reza, who said that everyone should be free to wear what they want. Resulted in women wearing the veil and chador again, but LESS than how it was decades before, as a direct result of his father’s coercive decision. Indeed, women started adapting and didn’t wish to wear the chador again, or they were afraid of the societal pressure to now wear it when they weren’t before.

• Then came the Ayatollah. A bit of drama here, we all know what’s the story since. A few days ago I was speaking with my teenage cousin, she is a believer but by no means a religious. She wears her scarf really loosely and her prayer habits are rather inexistent. So you would think she would throw that scarf away the second the government decides to abolish the Islamic laws, right? Yet she wouldn’t, not until the society stops wearing it, she’s afraid of what the others might think in the streets. Which is EXACTLY what happened during Mohammed Reza after his father’s decisions.

Reza Shah and the Ayatollah offered us in a century both absolute opposite of Islamic laws and on the veil. Both showed us that coercion works and will have an impact on their aftermath.

And this is my point. It might be sad that we have come to the point of coercion in our societies, but I believe it is needed. NOT as the current strategy, which solely targets muslim women as they are the most obvious. There are European Jews and Christians forcing their wives and kid to submission and to live their lives the way the family sees it fit. And this is as unacceptable as women forced to wear the burqa. Not less. The obvious problem: how do we see what happens in closed doors?

So here, I am stuck in a moral dilemma, and can’t stop thinking: should we or shouldn’t we ban the burqa/niqab? Again, I absolutely respect the hijab as women wearing it are strong women not afraid of showing what they have to say. They participate and integrate themselves in society. It’s their choice, and we fully respect it. But by definition, women in burqa can’t, even if they chose this life by their own, talk about it. And here is the whole point: the impossibility of talking/understanding each other.

I am obviously talking about the dignity and free aspect of the burqa ban, not anything to do with open anti-Muslim or stupid terrorist preventions policies as most of the governments gave in order to galvanize the crowds of racist/anti-immigration living here.