The fact still remains if you try to be acceptable and cool, it will be difficult achieving. Like wise trying to be happy, if you need to try to be happy, you will not be. I think the problem here is trying too hard. See what I mean.

Like other emotions Happiness is not what you can just obtain, you have to live in it, inhabit it. When you are irritated, so pissed at something, you are totally not in control of that state, you are unconscious of your state. Because you live in the anger.

Just as a brave man doesn't get confused about his being brave, neither those a confident person think in his heart if he is indeed confident. So it is with happiness, a happy man doesn't see reasons to feel otherwise, he is happy.

Happiness is a function of life experiences, happiness doesn't just jump into anybody, it is definitely not achieved in itself, certain circumstances bring about happiness. But it is funny this days How people sell happiness, but this and that be happy. Happiness cannot be sold or marketed, you cannot achieve happiness. It is just what it is. As soon as you get yourself sorted out, putting your life in other, I brings about happiness. Positive achievement brings about happiness.

FACT: HAPPINESS is NOT synonymous to PLEASURE.

Pleasures is not synonymous to happiness, and by pleasure I mean: a new ride(car), partying, losing 5 pounds, good food, plenty sex, seeing movies and so on. I m not condemning the search for pleasure and all, but we should never co-related happiness with pleasure it doesn't work that way. Some form of pleasure brings about happiness, not all. Whether positive pleasure or negative pleasure, which ever you choose to call it, is still pleasure to the individual or exhausting goal. For instance a drug addict, is in a pursuit of his happiness, but at the end of things, his health begins to pay the price. Talk about adultery and how it has shattered family, but he/her enjoyed the pleasure of it. Those are some forms of negative pleasures that never brought happiness.

They say that pleasure is an untrue god. Study has shown that individuals that exhaust their energy in superficial and materialistic pleasures don't end well, they become more emotionally unstable, less happy on the short run. It is therefore pleasure that is marketed to us, we fixate on it.

Pleasure is necessary but not sufficient. There is more to it, most times we use pleasure to distract ourselves from the real pursuit of happiness. What we fail to acknowledge is that happiness last longer than pleasure.